Suzanne Noble argues that the common stereotype about power dynamics in relationships doesn't hold up. People who are controlling at work often want to be submissive in the bedroom, and this pattern has nothing to do with gender.
I know it's a cliché, but it's almost definitely true that people who are in control during the day, in positions of power in their lives, doesn't matter whether they're men or women, when it comes to the bedroom, they don't want to be the person in control. They're almost inevitably people who like to be submissive, people who like to just be told what to do, and they don't want to be giving orders when it comes to bedroom sort of activities. So if you are with somebody who's a very controlling person in their working life, the likelihood is that they do not want to be the person who's a controlling person in their intimate life. And it doesn't matter whether you're a man or a woman. The same thing holds true. Those of us who tend to boss people around during the day do not want to boss people around in the bedroom. Just saying.
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