Suzanne Noble debunks the myth that condoms cause erectile dysfunction and explains why they matter for STI prevention, especially when dating or non-monogamous. She recommends trying different sizes and thicknesses to find a fit that works and offers ways to make condom use feel confident and sexy.
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Let's talk about men who say, "I can't wear condoms. Every time I try and put one on, my dick just goes flaccid, and yeah, they just don't work for me." That is rubbish, I'm afraid. And I think the thing about condoms that I know is, firstly, I'm afraid we pretty much all got to get on board with them unless you're in a monogamous relationship where you're not going to sleep with anybody else. If you're online dating, if you're dating different people, if you're meeting someone for the first time, Really, protection is important, and it's not about getting pregnant anymore. It's just about not getting any STDs, because none of us want that stuff, right? But the thing about condoms is they come in all sizes, they come in all thicknesses, and it's true that some men find certain condoms— well, not some men, all men that explore the range of condoms available find that there's usually one that they prefer over another. So it's not just a case of going and buying a box of Durex or Trojans or whatever. It's actually trying stuff out and seeing what fits and what feels the best. And also, it's about making it fun because condoms don't have to be a libido killer. Condoms can actually be sexy. And, you know, there are some women— not me, but some women I know— who can put them on with their mouth There is just taking control of using condoms. I like to take control and just grab one out of the drawer and rip it open and put it on with, you know, confidence, which I think guys find sexy. There's being a guy and also being confident. So there's lots of different ways that you can make condoms fun, but it's bullshit to say that you can't wear one.
