Suzanne NobleHost, Sex Advice for Seniors · Sex, Dating & Relationship Advice for Over 50s

Do you feel taken for granted? Replace duty with desire!

19 Dec 2022 · 1 min

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In this monologue, the speaker addresses how both domestic and sexual contributions are often taken for granted in relationships, regardless of gender. They argue that many people approach sex and partnership out of a sense of duty rather than genuine desire, which can lead to resentment and unfulfilling connections. The core message is to shift from duty‑based interactions to desire‑driven ones, encouraging open negotiation of roles, expectations, and sexual dynamics. By reframing how partners view and communicate about their contributions, the speaker aims to help listeners create more balanced, appreciative, and satisfying relationships where neither party feels undervalued or merely a provider of obligations.

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Very often our advice on sex turns into vice on relationships, and I think there's one area where these two overlap to a certain extent, and that is in the question of being taken for granted. That what you do around the house domestically, or what you do going out to work and bringing home the bacon, whether you're male or female, in both areas is, uh, can often be taken for granted. Sexually too, I think a lot of the things we can— we do is taken for granted. It's taken for granted that we will put out every now and again for sex, or that we will do our duty. And the point of our talks has perhaps been to replace duty with desire, to actually want to forge a new path to find new ways of being together and to not be taken for granted. Not be taken for granted in the sexual acts that you perform, in the way that you, uh, try to negotiate a sexual relationship. Um, and all of that is up for negotiation, and that is really all we want to do, is to advise people and to help people to Find a way to a more fulfilling relationship in which you are not simply taken for granted.