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Dr.Tina Schermer Sellers And I talking about shame and sex - Sex advice for seniors

2 Jan 2024 · 1 min

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In this short monologue, the speaker discusses how cultural messages—such as abstinence‑until‑marriage teachings, gendered ideas that women exist to entice men, and the belief that men cannot control their urges—instill deep sexual shame, especially in women. This shame can undermine women’s ability to experience pleasure, leading many to lose interest in sex during menopause, with libido dropping dramatically. The speaker highlights the need to rediscover pleasure and enjoy sex without shame, and promotes a podcast episode featuring Dr. Tina Schirmer Sellers, an expert who has written books on shame, inviting listeners to follow the link in the bio and engage with the creator’s TikTok channel.

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Let's talk about shame when it comes to sex. It's a massive topic, one that I'm certainly not going to get through in a minute, but so many of us have been brought up to think that sex is shameful. And if you've been brought up that way and been taught, for instance, to abstain from sex until marriage, that women's bodies are purely there to entice men, that men have no control over their sexual urges, so many things that lead, frankly, to the disastrous sexual relationships, often meaning that women just don't know how to experience sexual pleasure without feeling shameful. And as a result of that, and I've certainly seen it in so many people that I know, decide when it comes to the menopause and their libido may fall off a cliff, that they just don't want to have sex anymore. And rediscovering pleasure, rediscovering how great sex can be Feeling good about it and not shameful is the subject of our podcast this week with a specialist, Dr. Tina Schirmer Sellers, who's written a couple of books about shame, and I encourage you to listen to it. Link is in the bio. Please like and follow me if you enjoy my TikTok videos.