Edging for better orgasms

So Peter, what is edging? Someone asked, what is edging?

Well, it's when you delay the ejaculation and the, the, what's it called?

Orgasm.

Orgasm.

Orgasm. And why would you want to do that?

To extend the pleasure. And I suppose there are two elements to edging really. There's doing it yourself through masturbation, which can be quite fun, but also having it done to you without any control over it yourself.

Yeah, that's kind of more of a BDSM thing— bondage, domination, submission, masochism— for all you newbies out there. BDSM: bondage, domination, submission, masochism. Yeah, when you use edging, when a woman uses it, usually as well, I think we should say say that usually edging is applied to men, although as a woman you can do the same thing. And I've always thought of edging, and from a woman's point of view, I've always thought of edging as what we used to call in Tantra riding the wave, riding the wave, which is, you know, when you get to that point where you're not, you're not quite, you know, you could have an orgasm if you wanted to, but you don't, and then you end up in this kind of rhythmic pattern of going in and out of these waves of pleasure, which are amazing. But edging, I always think of as more the male way of describing that delay, and in BDSM it's used as a form of control. Yeah, you know, so you could tie somebody up and then they don't have any control, and then you, then you, and then you kind of jerk them off for a bit, and then you stop, and then they get all excited and want you to carry on, and then you don't, and then you do, and then you don't, and then you do, and then it carries on like that, really.

And sounds pretty good.

Yeah, I shall have to try it sometime. Well, yeah, maybe. Yeah, maybe.

I think one of the things as well, as you get older, as Suzanne Noble has said many times on these videos, things take a lot longer anyway. I mean, yeah, you know, it might well be that your whole sex life is edging. You never do anything but edge because you're never quite there.

No, that's true. And if you're on antidepressants, for instance, some antidepressants which can make it difficult to have orgasms, then yeah, edging is probably something that's just normal sex. Yeah, but generally it's not. I would say. Yeah, generally edging is, is, is doing it deliberately to just keep that, keep that edge, as it says, to keep that edge going and to keep it, to keep it exciting. And also, one of the other things about edging, which same for women, I think, is that when you do eventually orgasm, it's much more intense.

Yeah.

Yeah, because you've delayed it, and in fact, you know, when you look up edging on Wikipedia and stuff, things that come up are like blue balls and stuff like that, but we don't want it to go—

Well, I think that's when you edge for several days.

Days of edging, sounds like a movie.

Yeah, it's a good title for a film.

Yeah, some sort of film, not sure about which kind. Anyway, hopefully for the person who asked the question, We've been somewhat helpful in providing an answer.