Fake it till you make it

drift apart physically in terms of touch, and there is no holding hands or putting your arms around each other or whatever. Um, and that's the great thing about a new relationship, of course, is that you just, you know, at least for a little while, you're all over each other and touching each other and kissing. And, you know, and you get that back. And that's why people have affairs, I think, because they're after that. Sense of touch, that sense of, um, that sense of, of knowing someone intimately. And I think if you could, if you could rekindle that within a relationship, if you really want to, then you have to find that same sort of excitement that you have in an affair, um, within your own relationship. Now that's a very tall order and a very big problem. But, you know, it can be done. But it does mean you have to— I think it means you have to, uh, develop a program of events, really. You have to, you have to be fairly cut and dried about and say, look, it's not going to happen in the same way as it did when we first got together, or as if I was having a real affair, but we have to pretend, you know, fake it till you make it. I know it's a cliché, but it's It's true. And then it's only when you're faking it that you really decide whether you're going to make it or not.