A speaker reflects on which personal fantasies are worth making real and which stay better imagined. They discuss experimenting with pain to understand their own feelings about it, and emphasize that turning fantasies into reality requires them to be legal, safe, and consensual.
Have you ever had a fantasy and thought, I'd really like to make that happen? I know there's been many, many fantasies that I've had, and most of them I have made happen. And I can tell you, sometimes they're definitely left better in your head than they are in reality. Pain, for instance, is one of those things that I'm not really into, but every once in a while I quite like to experience a little bit of it just to try and refresh my memory as to whether I enjoy it, whether my feelings about it have changed, whether there's anything about it that really attracts me. Yeah, I can enjoy some of it, but it is a sort of thing that I can take it or I can leave it. Whereas there are other fantasies that I've had that I've made real and definitely were just as fun in the flesh, if you like, as they were going on in my head. But you don't know until you know. So if there's something that is going on in your head and you'd like to try it, provided it's not illegal and you're safe and it's consensual and all of that sort of stuff, why not go for it?
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