Viagra only works if you're already aroused, so it's not a fix for dysfunction but a party drug that amplifies what's already happening. The speaker argues penetrative sex isn't the only way to have fun, and reframing Viagra as excitement rather than desperation changes everything.
Should we talk about Viagra? Let's talk about Viagra. You know, so many people make such a big deal about Viagra, and I've been with men in my time that have taken Viagra and men that just resisted taking Viagra even though it probably would have benefited them. And here's the thing about Viagra: it doesn't actually do anything unless you are sexually stimulated, unless you're turned on. If you're not turned on, it generally doesn't work. And if you are turned on, then it does work and it can be a lot of fun. And like everything else, it's just about, as my friend Annie would say, flipping the narrative. So instead of looking at it as something that you were taking because as an older man you're struggling to get an erection, while that very well may be true, what if we consider it as something that's fun, that's going to get everybody excited, that's going to get the party started, then it can be really fun and pleasurable. And then again, penetrative sex isn't everything. So if you are struggling and you don't want to take Viagra, then you know what, there's lots of other ways of having fun.
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