Suzanne NobleHost, Sex Advice for Seniors · Sex, Dating & Relationship Advice for Over 50s

#freeda I know some women that are really happy to be invisible in their later years but it’s all

8 Dec 2023 · 1 min

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In this reflective monologue, the speaker discusses how men’s perception of her has changed as she aged, noting a decline in the level of desire she once received in her 40s. She connects this shift to broader societal pressures that tie a woman’s value to her physical attractiveness and sexual appeal. Around the age of fifty, while dating a significantly younger partner, she felt unattractive, prompting a decade‑long journey of self‑acceptance. Over ten years she worked through these feelings, focusing on fitness and intentional self‑presentation to feel attractive to herself and, potentially, to others.

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You know, men look at me differently now. Like, I— they don't look at me with the same level of desire that I was used to in my 40s. As women, we have to acknowledge that a lot of our— the value sometimes that we place on ourselves and the value that society places on us is based on the way that we look and how sexy we are. And that is hard to deal with sometimes. For me, it was on my— around turning 50 when I was going out with someone who was much, much younger than me, and I just felt very unattractive. So it takes a while to get over that. It did take probably a good 10 years to work through that period, and I'm okay with myself and my body, and I keep fit, and I do everything I can to still present in a way that I think makes me feel attractive to myself and maybe a few other people as well.