From my conversation with Emma Shandy Anway, a sex therapist talking about how her older clients

For a lot of people, when we're reaching this kind of decade of life, 70s and 80s, there is this reckoning with mortality that happens in a way that we don't see even when we hit our 50s and 60s, right? You're really feeling your age. A lot of times I'll have clients kind of describe themselves like frail for the first time. I'm, I'm really understanding that there is a limit to my life. And with often comes this almost push of, wait a minute, like, no, let's make the most of it. It's not over yet. And at least in America, we are an entirely puritanical culture that gives no good sex education. And what we find is that so many, especially heterosexual couples, go their whole life just having sex that's okay, it's fine, it's good enough. And so when we hit 70, 75, 80, and we go, wait, could there be something more?