Suzanne Noble explores how men and women experience attraction differently, questioning whether visual preferences like noticing grooming and keeping eyes closed during sex actually make someone visual, and what role bodily sensations play in desire.
There's an assumption that men are more visual than women, and I suspect that's partly true. I think during sex anyway, men seem to want to keep their eyes open all the time. I like to keep mine closed, and that's generally to make sure that I'm really in touch with everything that's going on in my body, and seeing stuff I find is actually just a distraction. But what I do know is that I want to be with a partner that looks after himself. That means generally somebody that can see their feet and somebody who, for instance, looks after their teeth. I don't think it's too much to ask, but does that make me visual? Maybe.
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