Define your relationship non-negotiables before you fall for someone. The speaker separates obvious deal-breakers like smoking from subtler ones like humor or curiosity, and warns that ignoring either kind early on leads to regret.
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What are your non-negotiables? Those things that within a relationship you're just not willing to compromise on. I suspect we've all got the really big ones, which are things like no smoking, no taking drugs, perhaps doesn't drink too much, that sort of thing. And then there's the other stuff, right, which is perhaps for me, um, doesn't have a sense of humor is a non-negotiable, or or isn't inherently curious is also a pretty big non-negotiable for me. And then there's other stuff that I'm, you know, perfectly willing to compromise on. But I suspect that many of us overlook some of those things that really are non-negotiable when we're entering into a relationship and it's all really exciting and we've got that early relationship energy and we just, you know, can't wait to be with the person until we then settle into something and realize that actually there's a whole bunch of stuff there that is just frankly unappealing, unattractive, and should have been on your list of non-negotiables in the first place.
