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21 Nov 2023 · 2 min

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In this monologue, the speaker offers concrete guidance for men (or partners) on facilitating a female partner’s orgasm. The core message is that orgasm is ultimately the woman's experience, so the partner’s role is to create conditions that reduce pressure and enhance pleasure. The speaker outlines four key practices: (1) remove performance pressure by avoiding demanding language; (2) provide constant clitoral stimulation rather than intermittent play; (3) ensure the woman feels relaxed, with ample time and a low‑stress environment; and (4) show genuine enthusiasm for the act, expressing enjoyment to make the partner feel comfortable. The speaker also notes that older women may need more time, emphasizing patience. The tone is instructional and conversational, with a supportive and encouraging sentiment.

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Let's talk about how you can help give your female partner an orgasm. Notice I said help because it's up to us as women whether we want to have one or not. You cannot deliver us an orgasm. So one of the main things for me is take the pressure off. I don't want to hear the words, "Come for me, baby, I really want to make you come," because I feel it puts me under enormous pressure to deliver this orgasm to you. Two, constant clitoral stimulation, not play with the clit, go off somewhere else, come back, play with the clit. No, needs to be constant because that's what's gonna make us come. 3, feeling relaxed. We like to feel relaxed, know that there's no pressure, as I said before, and that we've got lots of time so that it's gonna take us a bit longer and we're gonna come. 4th is to really be enthusiastic. So if you're doing something, You gotta really love it. I don't want you to do something that you don't enjoy. So if you like going down on a woman, that's great. Show me that you love it. Tell me how much you love it. And that's going to make me feel really relaxed and comfortable and more likely to have an orgasm. So one, feeling relaxed. Two, constant clitoral stimulation. Three, taking the pressure off. And four, showing how much you love doing what you're doing to your partner. All of that is going to be more likely to lead your partner to have an orgasm. Remember, as older women, it just takes us a bit longer, so be patient.