Men often say things that kill their partner's ability to orgasm: comparing her to an ex, criticizing her vibrator, questioning if she can come from penetrative sex. Most women need 20 minutes to climax. You can't make it happen, but you can create the relaxed, pressure-free space where it might.
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Let's talk about how you can make it 10 times more challenging for your female partner to have an orgasm. One is by comparing them to an ex and saying things like, for example, "Wow, it sure takes you a long time to come. My ex used to come so quickly." Or, "Why can't you come from penetrative sex? My ex used to come from penetrative sex." Or, "Well, I'd rather you didn't bring a vibrator into the bedroom." All of those ways are going to be really simple and effective ways for your partner's brain to go right off, to just shut down, and for that orgasm to never ever happen. What can you do to make it happen? Well, you can't personally do anything 'cause it's her that makes herself orgasm, but what you can do is make her feel more relaxed, make her feel safe, make her feel comfortable, make her feel like time isn't really important because the reality is that most women take on average about 20 minutes to reach an orgasm. So for any of you guys who perhaps have been with someone and it takes them 30 seconds to a minute, I suspect they're just faking.
