A singer and sex-advice host explains how getting ready for a performance mirrors preparing for sex: both rituals build confidence and desire. She suggests that grooming, fragrance, and wearing underwear that makes you feel good can spark motivation for intimacy, especially as you age.
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Hi there. When I'm not doing Sex Advice for Seniors, I am a professional singer, and one of the things that I really love about performing is the getting ready, is figuring out what I'm gonna wear, putting on my makeup, putting on my costume, getting into the vibe of getting ready to perform. And I feel the same way about when I know that I'm gonna meet my playmate and have some fun. What I really enjoy about all of that is prep, is the experience, is taking a shower, washing my hair, smelling really nice, shaving all those intimate areas, feeling really good and really up for it. And I think that for me is one of the things about being older is it's all part of feeling aroused and desired and excited about the idea of having sex with somebody that I think is sexy. So if you do feel like, oh, you know, I just never really feel up for it, try putting on some sexy underwear or just doing something for yourself that makes you feel really good.