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I know so many people who are completely hung up on text messaging, especially at the start of a

9 Jan 2024 · 2 min

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This content was created by Suzanne Noble. This content was uploaded by Suzanne Noble. This is a YouTube video (title: "I know so many people who are completely hung up on text messaging, especially at the start of a") uploaded 2024-01-09 that features a single speaker delivering a personal monologue about text-message addiction in dating. The speaker recounts an anecdote about a past relationship where her partner delayed replies (often not responding until evening), which helped her break the compulsion to await instant messages. The segment discusses anxieties around delayed responses, how reducing responsiveness changed her perceived neediness, and broader reflections on attractiveness and messaging habits.

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Let's talk about text message addiction. I know I've definitely been in relationships in the past where I was just waiting for that next text message to arrive, or WhatsApp, or whatever you happen to be using as a messaging platform, and thinking that if they didn't respond to me immediately, that there must be something desperately wrong, and I must have done something wrong, and or I was being ghosted or something like that. I was always catastrophizing this whole thing about not receiving this message instantly. And then I had a boyfriend who used to put his phone in the drawer in his desk at work and typically wouldn't respond to anything before sort of 9:00 PM. And so my addiction and my compulsion to, read and wait for these messages just disappeared. And I just got used to not hearing from him for the entire day, and sometimes not until much later that evening. And that literally broke that addiction that I had to text messaging. And I suspect I've become one of those people as a result who often just doesn't respond to a message for quite a while, not because I'm not interested, but because I'm busy doing other things and there's nothing urgent about that message that's demanding that I answer it quickly. And I suspect as a result of that, that I'm not as needy. I'm not viewed as one of those women that is, you know, kind of has that kind of compulsion. And I don't attach any significance to the fact now when somebody doesn't message me instantly, fact, I don't even give a shit if they message me, if they don't message me, if it takes them a day, whatever. I don't really care. And probably I'm quite similar in the same way. And I think just generally that none of us are attractive when we become addicted to waiting for that message to arrive.