Suzanne NobleHost, Sex Advice for Seniors · Sex, Dating & Relationship Advice for Over 50s

I know that many people disagree with me on this one, but I think if you’re not going to prioritise

21 Aug 2025 · 2 min

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In this monologue, the speaker argues that people should treat sex as a source of pleasure rather than a duty, and recommends "diarizing" or scheduling sexual time to ensure it isn’t neglected amid busy lives. She contrasts the view of sex as a chore—something that gets pushed aside when seen as a responsibility—with the view of sex as enjoyable, happy, and fulfilling. By framing sex as a pleasurable activity, she suggests it makes sense to deliberately set aside time, such as planning a dedicated Sunday session with a partner, to experience the positive sensations and emotional benefits that sex can provide.

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Let's talk about prioritizing pleasure in your life. Do you diarize your sex life, or do you think that scheduling in sex is something that makes it lose its spontaneity, its excitement, and means that it feels more like a chore than actually something that you can enjoy? I personally am all for diarizing your sex life because frankly, we've all got really busy lives. With lots to do, and it's easy to just park sex in your life and prioritize other things that maybe just aren't as fun. And I suspect that's really what it's all about. Is sex fun for you? Is it pleasurable, or is it something that you look upon as responsibility? If it's the latter, then of course you're going to push it aside and you're going to say, yeah, I don't really have time for that. Whereas if it's something that you enjoy, something that gives you pleasure, something that makes you feel good, that makes you feel happy and contented and sleepy and just basically lovely, then why not make it a priority? Why not stick it in the diary? Why not tell your partner, "You know what, this Sunday let's just take a few hours off and spend it in the bedroom just with each other, being with each other." and enjoying all of those pleasurable sensations that we know that sex can provide for us.