A speaker shares a personal theory about how men decide in early dating: the irrational brain runs the show like a heat-seeking missile, responding to signals of sexual interest. Achievements like a PhD don't matter yet because the rational brain hasn't taken over.
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So I have this theory about guys when it comes to dating, and I really just want you to hear me out. So here's a picture of a guy— talking about heteronormative relationships— here's a picture of a man, and he's got his rational brain up here and he's got his irrational brain down here. Now I know this isn't scientifically proven, but it's my hypothesis. In the early days of dating, it's often that smaller brain, the irrational brain, that is making a lot of the decisions. This little brain down here is like heat-seeking missile. It's going off in all directions. It just wants to fire off, right? So often in the early days, that smaller brain is making the decision. So when it views a profile, a dating profile, or meets someone, if there's a suggestion that sex might be on the menu, then you've— you're in with a chance because that little brain is going, yeah, this is good, go for this, we like this, we want this. Even if you're not intending to have sex on the first date, by suggesting that there might be that possibility, the small brain is going, "Yes, right on." Don't try and overcomplicate it by telling it that you've got a PhD or that you're, you know, you're a published author or anything. The small brain doesn't really care about that right now, right? That sort of thinking goes on when the rational brain kicks in, which, sometimes can take a little while. But in the early days, I say, "Go apply your attention to the smaller brain's way of thinking. It's simple."
