I read a great peace on Substack today about how the patriarchy informs how we think about seggs and

Let's talk about the reasons why we have sex. Are you having sex for a man if you're a heterosexual woman, or with a man? There's a big difference. For a man is— creates a sense of obligation. It's a responsibility. It's about making him orgasm. It's doing something for him. With a man is exploring sexual pleasure together, considering how you're both going to enjoy each other's bodies, not necessarily even thinking about orgasms, but just thinking about pleasure in and of itself, and I think is much more focused on each other's pleasure rather than just delivering something for somebody else. And I suspect that one of the reasons why lots of women feel that they don't want to have sex anymore in later life is because they feel that sex is a responsibility. It's something they do for somebody else. It's to make a man come, it's to penetrate them, it's all about them without regard to their own pleasure. Whereas women that think about sex as something they do with somebody else, or the women that perhaps think, yep, this is fun and I just want to keep doing it for as long as possible.