In this monologue, the speaker examines how her upbringing—shaped by two highly educated, continuously working parents, especially a working mother—has forged her expectations of financial self‑sufficiency and a rejection of the traditional male‑provider model. She contrasts this with older generations, citing a man named Peter who struggles with ingrained, inferior views of women, and highlights how her own children, raised with a working‑mom example, treat women as equals. The speaker expands the discussion beyond economics to relational and sexual equality, urging listeners to reflect on how early family dynamics influence current relationship attitudes and to actively adapt to a society that now values equal opportunity, shared pleasure, and mutual respect.
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How much does our upbringing inform how we see ourselves within a relationship? Both my mother and father worked throughout my entire life, and they're still very, very busy people even though they're both retired. Both highly educated, my mother was always working, and therefore I grew up with a role model of a working mom, and as a result of that, I I have always worked throughout, you know, my adult life, been financially self-sufficient, run numerous businesses, and I don't expect a man to look after me in that financial way that it was the tradition for many people of our age growing up, where the man was the provider, financial provider, and the woman generally stayed at home and looked after kids. But we live in a very, very different society now, and as a result of that, when I look at my kids and how they treat women. It is mainly as equals. It is as equals because they're used to growing up with a working mom and seeing women working and just feeling about women that they have equal rights, equal opportunities, um, just in the way that they should. Um, but I know that older men— Peter spoke yesterday about his own feelings about women and how he's had to overcome some of the toxicity and some of that inherent, um, the inherent views that he has about women as being a little bit inferior to men because of his own upbringings and his feelings about his, you know, the role of women that he saw growing up. And I think it is difficult for older guys, but we all need to reflect on we're living in a different society now where People should have equal opportunities, and that's just not about work. It's also about in our relationship, about equality within our relationship, equality when it comes to our own sexual pleasure, being able to, you know, pleasure each other in the way that we should. It's not just about men and their own, you know, ability to— for us to get them off, but also for them to be able to give us the pleasure that we desire so we can have fun. But, you know, it's different now than it was growing up. And I just am putting it out there that we all should reflect: how did our upbringing inform how we view relationships, and what can we do now that society is different to change
