Suzanne Noble responds to viewer questions about sex and desire in later life. She suggests practical ways to increase partner interest: unprompted help around the house, massage, long kisses, bathing together, special meals, and compliments. For physical comfort during sex, she mentions vaginal estrogen as a medical option.
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Some guy said that he didn't like my negative comments about what's stopping your old woman from fucking you, so let's talk about what will make your old woman want to fuck you. I think there's a bunch of stuff that anybody can do if they want their partner to feel more amorous towards them. One of those things is just generally taking the load off, so just doing stuff without being asked is always a nice way to get into somebody's good books. Number 2 for me is just things that make me feel nice, like somebody starting out with a massage, a really good lovely kiss, a hug that goes on a little bit too long. Taking a bath together is always really nice. Going out for a special meal, doing something where I just feel really loved and desired. That's always good. Lingerie always works for me, of the kind that, you know, reveals just enough without revealing maybe some of the stuff that I'm not too keen for somebody to see who might not know me so well. What other things can I think about? Just saying nice things like, wow, I think you look really lovely, or that dress really suits you, or, you know, one of the things I adore about you is that little sparkle in your eyes or your great smile or anything that just makes me feel really special and wanted. And then on the physical side of things, because sometimes it is just physical in terms of our body is just not really loving having sex because maybe it doesn't feel so good. For me, vaginal estrogen was absolutely transformative. It's not like taking HRT, which I can't take, but it just makes the downstairs nice and juicy and welcoming, which of course makes sex feel a whole lot better. So I hope that's been helpful. Some positive suggestions for, you know, just getting sexy.
