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If you’re seeking an icebreaker when your first matching with somebody on a dating app, I would

3 Dec 2025 · 1 min

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In this spoken monologue, the speaker expresses frustration with the decline in quality of opening messages on dating apps, recounting a particularly vulgar first line they received: "what do you say you come and fuck me before you go?" They explain that such crude approaches are unattractive and inappropriate for initial contact. Drawing from their own occasional use of dating apps while in a situationship, they argue that most people would prefer more respectful, normal conversation starters. The speaker then offers concrete alternatives for icebreakers, such as asking "how's your day going?", "what makes you happy?", or inquiring about the match's location, emphasizing the importance of presenting oneself as a normal, considerate person rather than resorting to explicit language.

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Talk about how shitty dating apps have become. I don't really use them because I'm very happy in my situationship at the moment, and I don't really feel the need to go and look around. But every once in a while when I'm bored, I might turn it on and just like, you know, just for something to do. And the other day when I did that, this message popped into my inbox that started out by saying, what do you say you come and fuck me before you go? First sentence. And I just thought, what kind of an opening line is that? So I did say, how does that line work as an icebreaker with other women? Because I just can't imagine that too many women really find that kind of sentence, that first sentence, really attractive when you are first on a dating app. And if you're wondering what you could say, how about just, how's your day going? What makes you happy? Hey, it looks like you're nearby, where do you live? Or anything that suggests that you might be a normal person and not somebody who just thinks that it's okay to be crude like that when you've only just matched with somebody on an app. I mean, really.