After going on a dating spree, the speaker noticed a pattern: men who dominate conversations and never ask her questions. She shares a story about a couple where the man kept talking over his partner until she shut him down. Her takeaway: if you want a second date, show actual interest by asking questions and doing basic research.
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I've been on a bit of a dating frenzy recently because I just decided why not. There seemed to be a lot of people that were curious and interested in meeting me, so I thought I'd just schedule one after another and see what happens. And I've noticed that they seem to fall into a very predictable pattern. Disappointing, I have to say, because predictably what happens is that the person that I'm meeting spends the majority of their time telling me about themselves themselves without asking anything at all about me. And when I try to interject to share some aspect of my own life, there seems to be a very swift move on to them talking about themselves. And most recently, I have to say, there was something that was even funnier, which was that I was out with somebody, and we ran into a couple who were on the street with a bottle of champagne because their very upmarket luxury shop was shutting down, and they were celebrating by giving anyone that wanted a glass of champagne. So they offered us a glass of champagne. We got to chatting with them, really nice couple, had lots of fun just sharing you know, stuff about ourselves. And the woman asked the guy I was with what he did, and he went on and on and on and on and on. And she was a bit drunk, and she said, "Oh, that's kind of boring." And then she said to me, "What do you do?" And as I started speaking, he very quickly just came straight in again with talking about himself completely just talked over me as if he wasn't interested at all. But she was clearly very, very interested. So she kept saying to him, "But no, no, no, I don't wanna hear about you anymore. I wanna hear about her. Let me hear about her. What is she up to?" And it was just, I just found the whole thing quite amusing actually. But it just did indicate to me that, and maybe it's a generational thing, I don't know, But I think if you want to impress your date as a guy, then show some interest in the person that you're with. Ask some questions, do some research. I don't even mind if you stalk me a little bit and Google me and find out a bit about me. But when you don't ask anything about me, the, um, you know, the interest I have in seeing you again is very low.
