Suzanne Noble used to fake orgasms in her twenties to reassure her partner, but stopped because she saw no point. She argues that men often don't understand female physiology like periods and menopause, so partners need to communicate openly about what actually feels good.
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I want to talk about faking it, and by that I mean faking orgasm. I know that when I was in my 20s, I definitely did fake it because I wanted to make the guy I was with feel like he was doing something that felt good and make him feel good. But these days I don't fake it anymore because I just think, what's the point? And also because I think we all have a responsibility to be able to express and what we like and what we don't like and when something's not working, and also to let the other person know what we enjoy and what gives us pleasure, because they're not mind readers and they don't know. And one of the things that Peter and I spoke about on a podcast is about the fact that for a lot of men, women's bodies are just a complete mystery. They don't really understand how they work. They don't understand about periods and menopause and perimenopause and all the other stuff that goes on with us. And, you know, they don't have women's bodies, so why should they? But, you know, as I said, it's about us communicating to them what it is that we enjoy, what's not working, and what we like, so that we can both experience sexual pleasure.
