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Let's Talk About Lube - Sex Advice For seniors

18 Jan 2024 · 1 min

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In this candid monologue, the speaker shares a recent experience where a partner suggested she might need lubricant early in their relationship, which initially triggered feelings of resistance and shame. She reflects on the common misconception that needing lube signals a lack of foreplay or sexual competence, especially among older women who may experience natural dryness. Emphasizing that there is no shame in seeking extra help, she advocates for the use of lubricant at any age, encouraging seniors to view lube as a normal, supportive tool for enjoyable intimacy rather than a sign of inadequacy. The speaker calls listeners to embrace lube without embarrassment, highlighting the importance of communication, foreplay, and self‑acceptance in maintaining a healthy sex life later in life.

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Let's talk about lube. I've actually talked about lube before, but recently I had a little incident with somebody where he mentioned that I might need a bit of lube. And it was very early in our, you know, getting together. And I must admit that a part of me slightly got triggered by that remark, thinking, no, no, no, I don't need that. I just need a little bit more foreplay. There's nothing wrong with needing help, and I love lube, and I think that everybody, no matter what their age, should use lube. But there's also the whole aspect of feeling like we need help when maybe we don't really need that much help, or when we do need help, just acknowledging that we need help. And I suspect that some of the aspect of, you know, using lube, especially as an older woman, is this whole thing about, you know, dryness and all this kind of thing and feeling slightly ashamed about all of that, but there's no shame in needing a little bit of extra help. So if you do, go out and get some lube.