Suzanne NobleHost, Sex Advice for Seniors · Sex, Dating & Relationship Advice for Over 50s

Many other women feel invisible in society and it can be tough especially when you’re at public

8 Dec 2023 · 2 min

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In this monologue, the speaker reflects on how hair‑color choices serve as a means for older women to remain visible in social settings. She recounts attending a singles event where most women had dyed their hair blonde and many had undergone breast augmentation to appear youthful, which made her feel invisible despite not wanting invasive procedures. She explains that adding color to her own hair was a simple, non‑surgical way to assert presence and combat the sense of being unseen that many older women experience. The speaker acknowledges that some women may not mind invisibility, but emphasizes that feeling unseen can impact self‑esteem, and invites listeners to share how they choose to be seen.

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One thing that people always comment on, or often comment on, is the color of my hair. And I've been doing this to my hair for a number of years now, and I suspect that I'm not unlike many women who either are dyeing their hair blonde or leaving it to go white or putting some crazy color in it or whatever. And for me, it's a way to be seen, to remain visible, because one of the things that I noticed many years ago when I was at a singles event was that I was amongst a sea of women who all had their hair dyed blonde, some of whom had augmented their breasts and done all sorts of other things to try and remain youthful. And whilst I didn't desire to do any of those things because invasive surgery just freaks me out, is I did feel quite invisible amongst that of other women. And yep, it could be my own self-esteem, all that sort of thing, but I decided at that moment that I wanted to do something about it. And for that, for me, that was just putting a little bit of color in my hair, which just makes me a little bit more visible. And, you know, some of us don't care whether we're invisible or not, but it is something that impacts a lot of older women who who feel suddenly that they're just not seen. So if you do want to be seen, there's lots of ways you could do it. I'm curious to know what it is that you're doing, or don't you care?