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One of the healthiest changes I’ve made in my life is to forget about the idea of there being the on

6 Sept 2023 · 1 min

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In this personal reflection, the speaker challenges the pervasive belief that there is a single, all‑encompassing soulmate for each person, regardless of age. She explains that she has let go of this expectation because it is unrealistic to find someone who meets every possible criterion. Instead, she argues that people can fulfill different roles and bring joy in specific areas of life—such as sexual chemistry, shared hobbies, or a love of food—without needing to satisfy all needs simultaneously. The speaker emphasizes that expecting one person to share every facet of one’s life is self‑deception, and that embracing multiple, complementary relationships can be healthier and more fulfilling.

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Let's talk about this concept of there being the one. I suspect it doesn't matter if you're 16 or if you're 60, so many of us have been sold onto this idea that there is the one person out there who is our soulmate, who is there just specifically for us. And I've released myself from that expectation a while back because I recognize that the whole concept is foolish. There is no way, except in very, very circumstances that you are going to find somebody who fits all your criteria, who ticks all of your boxes. But there are people that you can have an incredibly good time with for the joy that they bring you for certain aspects of your life, whether that's people that you just have a great sexual connection with, people that share your interests and want to go with you to the theater, people who want to eat out with you and appreciate food. There are people out there who are fantastic to be with for just the experiences that you can share and enjoy together. But to expect that somebody is going to want to share and enjoy all the different aspects of your life together with you, I think that's just kidding yourself.