One of the problems of being a wise old woman, and doing a podcast with another wise, old woman is t

you or somebody you know a pot stirrer. What do I mean by that? A pot stirrer, somebody who's just keeps stirring the pot and keeping you engaged just enough that you don't go away. They're probably moving you from one flame to another on their hob, so sometimes they're more engaged, sometimes they're a little less engaged, but basically you get the feeling that you're not the only one, but you still remain excited enough because they keep sending you those sexy messages, leaving voice messages or whatever, keep stirring the pot, in other words, for long enough to make you feel special. I know that, you know, sometimes if you want to keep a few people on the go, then keeping that pot stirring away is an effective way to do that. But at the end of the day, if they don't really make any commitment to spending actual time with you, then all they're doing is just stirring the pot.