A sex educator discusses masturbation for women over 60, covering health benefits like stress relief and pelvic floor strength. She walks through a five-minute solo practice using a mirror, lubricant, and vibrator, and offers a booklet with a 50% Amazon discount code.
I want to talk about self-pleasure or masturbation. I know that there is such a stigma around this topic. Some of it is cultural, of course, where women have especially been taught that it's not something that they should be doing, and some of it is just our own shame around our bodies and not feeling like it's something that we might want to do. But it's so important after 60, especially because orgasms have been shown to do all sorts of wonderful things for your body. They reduce stress through oxytocin release, they maintain pelvic health, they build body confidence, they can prepare the body for partnered sex. For me, one of the big ones is that they reduce the risk of cognitive decline. They fill your body with happy hormones, they make you feel feel good. So there are so many great reasons for self-pleasuring. And I know for myself, when I'm traveling and my partner isn't around, then my little Bullet vibrator is definitely my best friend. So here's a little story about how my weekly solo routine keeps me vibrant and also helps me to fall back asleep. But you know what? Finding the right toys does make a huge difference, and we all have different tastes when it comes to toys. I like a little bullet. Some people like toys that can be inserted into the vagina. Some people like a toy that can be inserted and provides clitoral stimulation. Some people like toys that suck on the clitoris, which produce a really pleasurable sensation. There are so many absolutely amazing toys toys on the market. And you might be interested to know that I've actually produced a little booklet called Sex Toys and Supplements for Thriving in Later Life. And if you comment and say DM, then I will send you a special code where you can get 50% off on Amazon. So please do that. It's a great little booklet with loads of toys, most of which I've tried myself. So here's an actionable step you can take: do a 5-minute body scan with no touch. Use a mirror and lube to explore slowly, and then just start to introduce a small vibrator on a low speed. Just allow yourself to explore the pleasure within your own body. Doesn't necessarily have to lead to orgasm, but just find out what feels good for you, because by finding out what feels good for you, you're going to be able to explain to your partner how to pleasure you in a way that he's going to really enjoy as well. If you really thought this video was helpful, I hope you will click on subscribe, and you can receive my weekly newsletter by going to sexadviceforseniors.com.
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