Suzanne NobleHost, Sex Advice for Seniors · Sex, Dating & Relationship Advice for Over 50s

Sex is dirty. Isn't it?

16 Dec 2022 · 3 min

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In this monologue, the host of the "Sex Advice for Seniors" podcast references Esther Perel’s book Mating in Captivity to challenge the cultural notion that sex is inherently dirty or sinful. She argues that pursuing pleasure, desire, and basic instincts is natural and not immoral, though it can be complex. The speaker urges listeners—especially older adults who may have internalized guilt about sexuality—to liberate themselves from ideas of sinfulness, to embrace and express their desires with partners or consensual partners, and to view sexual fulfillment as essential to human flourishing. The podcast’s mission is presented as helping seniors overcome entrenched shame around sex, thereby achieving greater personal fulfillment.

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In her book Mating in Captivity, um, Esther Perel quotes the old phrase, 'Sex is dirty, save it for someone you really love.' Um, and that is understandable to a certain extent, but sex is dirty, oh, but only if you're doing it correctly. The The pursuit of pleasure, the pursuit of your desires, the pursuit of your basic instincts is really not dirty or sinful at all. It can be tricky, it can get you into a lot of trouble, but then so can lots of things. And it's important that you liberate yourself, or one liberates oneself from these, uh, ideas of sinfulness and dirtiness, and somehow that what you want to do and what you would like to do are things, are ideas that you should reject. No, embrace them. Embrace, uh, your desires. Embrace your pleasure and express it to to those around you, to your loved one or your loved ones, or just to any old person that you happen to be sleeping with. And try to get rid of those, that, those cling-ons, those, you know, those ideas that cling to the outside of your desires and try to turn you against them. It— what is really important is the fulfillment of the human being, of the flourishing of the human being, and sex is a really, really important part of that. And I think that what we are doing on Sex Advice for Seniors, which is our podcast here, the bio, the, the link is in the bio, and we want to help older people especially, people who may have grown up with this idea that sex is sinful, liberate themselves from, uh, from that idea and find their pleasure and their desires, uh, with their partner or in any way they see possible. I think if we achieve that, or if we help you achieve that, then we will have achieved our goal here.