Suzanne NobleHost, Sex Advice for Seniors · Sex, Dating & Relationship Advice for Over 50s

Sexual arousal and older women

15 Dec 2022 · 2 min

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In this monologue, the speaker reflects on how her experience of sexual desire and arousal has changed from age 41 to age 61. At 41 she describes a constant, high level of arousal that was easily triggered, whereas at 61 arousal takes longer to develop and requires more gradual stimulation. She emphasizes that non‑sexual physical intimacy—such as touching, hugging, holding hands, and gentle stroking—can help older women feel desired, build arousal, and eventually lead to a desire for sex. The speaker addresses men who may misinterpret a partner’s slower response as disinterest, urging them to understand the need for a slower, more nurturing approach. She also references a recent podcast interview with a woman named Jandy, who shares specific exercises designed to increase sexual excitement for seniors, and encourages listeners to check out that episode, titled “Sex Advice for Seniors.”

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One of the differences between being a woman of 61 and being a woman of 41 is when I was 41, I wanted to have sex all the time, pretty much anywhere. I'd get turned on like that, and I was just in this kind of quite heightened state of arousal all the time, and it was very distracting, if I'm honest. And at 61, it takes a lot longer. If you ask me, would I like to have sex right now, the answer is no, probably not. But it's not to say that I don't want sex, but it's gonna take me more time to get aroused, to get excited, to get warmed up. And most of that has just got to do with my age, and I suspect I'm not alone in feeling this way. And one of the things that can really help me to feel more excited and more ready to have sex with someone and want to have sex with someone is just a around things like touching, hugging, and just generally just being physical, but not in an overtly sexual way. So it could just be holding hands, just stroking parts of my body, and— but not with the intention of just getting right in there, but just about feeling desired and wanted. And gradually I become aroused and excited, and then I want to have sex. So for all of those men out there who think that their partners are, are pushing them away and don't want to have sex, I suspect that it's not that they don't want to have sex, although some women don't, but that it's just gonna take a bit more time. And understanding how to excite an older woman, how to build up that arousal that she will feel gradually, is part of being in a relationship as an older person. So, yeah, we've got this interview on our podcast that we did, that we did a few days ago with a woman called Jandy talking about some really nice exercises that you can use to make and help to make a person, whatever age, but especially helpful for older people and older women, feel more excited and all aroused. So give it a listen. It's Sex Advice for Seniors.