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Stop looking for Chemistry Start Looking for Partnership

28 May 2026 · 1 min

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In this reflective monologue, the speaker recounts over two decades of personal experience with online dating, recalling the early dial‑up era as a time of excitement and genuine connection with interesting, often professional, individuals who were among the few with internet access. The speaker contrasts that nostalgic period with the present state of online dating, describing it as increasingly transactional, dominated by extensive check‑list criteria and superficial 'tick boxes' that undermine the true purpose of partnership. The overall message urges a shift away from superficial chemistry metrics toward seeking authentic partnership.

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I've been online dating on and off for just over two decades. Two decades ago, online dating was absolutely amazing, I have to say. Like, it was full of interesting people who were just astounded that this thing called the internet could actually provide us with opportunities to meet people that we'd never have met otherwise. I was just like, I met so many cool people that I'm still friends with because they were all professionals, because you had to have, you had to have an internet connection, which wasn't everybody. So we had the little dial-up box, you know, like, then we'd watch the picture come down. It would take like 20 minutes and we'd be waiting. I think you're right, we— it's transactional. And also we've just got way too many tick boxes. Isn't really what partnership is all about, is it?