Suzanne Noble says endless texting in early dating creates a dopamine addiction and false expectations. Meet in person within days, ideally after one or two message exchanges, or move on. Prolonged texting rarely leads anywhere real.
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Internet dating part 4. Let's talk about texting or too much texting. The key with any kind of dating is you just want to get to the point where you're actually going to meet someone. And the problem with all of this back and forth texting, WhatsApp, whatever mechanism you have to be using, is you can get very addicted to it. You can build up all this hope and expectation around meeting this person who, let's face it, might not even be real, until the point where all you're doing is just texting. So, for me, I want to get to that meet as quickly as possible. One round of texts, maybe two. If it's a Tuesday, I'm going to be meeting that person hopefully by Saturday. But this endless texting, it doesn't work. It's not going to lead you to anything other than this big dopamine I mean, hit every time the text comes through, but it could ultimately lead to tremendous disappointment, which, let's face it, we all want to avoid.