Partners in non-monogamous relationships shouldn't feel pressured to share intimate details about other lovers. Hearing descriptions, especially praise or comparisons, creates insecurity and disrespect. Set clear boundaries: discuss only what you both agree on, and keep other relationships private unless explicitly asked.
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Don't tell me about what you do with other women. I think whether you're casually dating a few people or perhaps more intimate with more than one person, and that goes on these days, that— but the thing is, I don't really want to know what my partner, for lack of another word, gets up to with other people. And I recently met someone who feels the need to tell me about what he does with this other woman. Not only that, but how beautiful and gorgeous and fabulous she is. Again, something that I don't really need to know. I don't want to be in a position where I'm comparing myself to somebody else, nor do I want to hear about the intimate details of what goes on between them. And hopefully he's not sharing that kind of stuff that goes on between us with her either. I think that what goes on between two people is private. If you want to know what they do with other people, of course you can ask them, but if not, then just shh, keep it to yourself.