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The 4 Words No Woman Wants to Hear in Bed

23 Feb 2026 · 1 min

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In this spoken commentary, the creator explains why the phrase “come for me, baby” (and similar commanding statements) is almost universally unwelcome for women during sex. She argues that female orgasm is often hard to achieve and cannot be summoned on command; it is a personal, internal experience that occurs when a woman feels relaxed, trusts her partner, and is genuinely aroused. When a partner demands an orgasm, it creates performance pressure that shuts down arousal, leading women to feign enjoyment rather than experience genuine pleasure. The segment emphasizes the importance of consent, trust, and a pressure‑free environment for authentic sexual satisfaction.

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about those 4 words that virtually no woman I know, especially myself, ever wants to hear during sex. Those words are come bore me, baby. Why don't we want to hear them? Well, orgasm for most of us women is quite difficult to achieve at the best of times, and being asked to do it on command is almost impossible. Plus, orgasm is something that we do for us. It's not something to make you feel virile like you've achieved something, that you're an amazing lover. This is something that we've got control over, not you. So we will do it when we want to do it and when we are able to do it, which is mainly when we feel relaxed, when we trust the person that we're with, and when we are just feeling especially horny. Of course, of course, the other thing that happens when a guy says come for me, baby, is that That pressure to achieve something for them, mainly for me anyway, shuts down that from ever happening downstairs. I'm just like, at that point I'm thinking, it's just not gonna happen. And at that point I have to feign enjoyment to demonstrate that once again, I'm doing something that he thinks is making me feel good.