A woman explains why "Come for me, baby" backfires for her in bed: it adds pressure to climax on command when she already takes time to orgasm. Some men say the same phrase speeds theirs up. Sexual language hits differently depending on the person, not the gender.
Come for me, baby. That was a video that I made a few days ago about the fact that when a guy says that to me, it is a complete turn-off because I just feel under an enormous amount of pressure. Takes me a long time to have an orgasm anyway. I don't need to have the additional requirement to deliver it on cue for some guys so that he can feel like Mr. Virile and think that he's just a fabulous lover because Generally, when I want to make it happen, I'm the one who's going to make it happen. But funnily enough, a couple of men wrote to me and said that they found it a real turn-on when women said that to them. And I was like, ah, interesting. They said that they found it really horny, um, that actually it kind of sped up their ability to have an orgasm. So I thought I thought it's really interesting. There's no blanket statement when it comes to what we like, especially the differences between men and women.
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