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The End of Leisure Time and Dating? The Effects of the Rising Retirement Age.

12 Feb 2024 · 1 min

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In this monologue, Suzanne Noble discusses how modern dating, especially among adults over 55‑60, is hampered by a surprising lack of leisure time. She observes that many potential partners are “too busy” – working long hours, caring for young children, or otherwise occupied – making it nearly impossible to schedule dates. Even when dates are set, they are frequently cancelled or postponed with legitimate‑sounding excuses. Noble attributes this pattern to a broader cultural shift where work and other responsibilities dominate daily life, leaving little room for prioritizing romantic relationships despite the rising retirement age that would ostensibly free up time.

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One of the things I notice about modern dating, or it could just be the sort of alternative apps that I'm on, is that they're generally full of people who predominantly aren't available. Either they work too hard, they work too long, they've still got young kids at home. And although you'd think that over the age of 55 or 60 people would have more leisure time, in fact everyone I meet seems to have less. Fixing dates, putting times in the diary, absolutely bloody impossible, never happens. And when you do put them in the diary, people tend to flake out, drop out, or they just come up with an excuse, which is probably totally legitimate, that they've just got too much work. And I suspect that's just modern life. Everybody's way too busy to be prioritizing relationships and spending all their time prioritizing work.