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The Lie Women Were Taught About Sex and Marriage

28 Jan 2026 · 1 min

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In this brief monologue, the speaker draws a clear line between girls and women, describing girls as "women in training" and emphasizing that women are distinct from girls. She cites research indicating that little girls of color are disproportionately over‑sexualized, which leads to strict societal rules governing how they present themselves. The speaker argues that shame, often hidden in silence, erodes self‑value and self‑worth. She proposes a practical exercise: listing topics one is silent about to uncover areas of shame, and recommends seeking therapeutic treatment to address these hidden shame‑based issues so they do not sabotage one's potential for a fabulous life.

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Girls are not women. They are girls— they are women in training. And women are not girls. The research shows that little girls of color are oversexualized. And that is often why there are many strict rules around how little girls of color show up. Shame can do a lot to undermine your self-value, your self-worth. If you can find what you're silent about, then usually that's where there's shame. So if you can come up with a list of things you're silent about, then that's probably the list of things that you have some element of shame around, should really get into treatment to address that so that you don't undermine the parts of life that are meant for you that are going to be fabulous.