The older the wiser.

There's a huge amount of clichés about being older, and one of them is the saying that I detest, "Older and wiser," because I am certainly not that much wiser than when I was a much younger person. And I think that probably a lot of us are not any more wise than we were in our earlier years, and there's nothing to do with age about getting wise. Being wise is something that you have to work on or changing your behavior or doing things that are different than you've done before. And I know certainly I have been guilty in my— in pretty much all my relationships of being incredibly impulsive. And despite knowing all of this about myself and my friends and family reminding me often enough of my impulsive behavior, it doesn't mean that I ever do much about it. And yeah, sometimes to my detriment, I have to say. But yeah, I think, you know, for, for all of us, as we get older, we don't necessarily become wiser, but we do perhaps recognize more quickly some of the aspects of our behavior that took a longer time to recognize than when we were younger. We got ourselves into much deeper water, and this time maybe we get ourselves into deep water, and then perhaps we can swim ourselves out much quicker. But yeah, if you're one of those people who keeps repeating the same, you know, patterns of behavior over and over again in your relationship, then, well, either recognize it and do something about it, or go and get some help, or just recognize that's who you are.