Age doesn't make breakups easier or people more honest about ending them. Most adults still ghost or stay silent rather than have the painful conversation, and many never develop the maturity to handle rejection directly.
Let's talk about closure. One of the benefits of being older, or at least I think it should be a benefit, is that we are able to have closure. We're able to communicate what we think, what we feel, and we're able to express ourselves in ways that are more adult than just ghosting others, going silent, being absent, or just not speaking at all. And I suspect that's one of those old wives' tales that we've all heard, which is older and wiser. And as I know, older doesn't necessarily mean any wiser. We still do all the same stupid stuff that we did when we were younger. Many of us haven't grown up at all. And I think where that is most obvious is when it comes to ending relationships. How difficult is it to tell someone that you just don't fancy them that much anymore, or you just don't feel that you've got that much in common, or you just don't have that much to say, or you found somebody else and you just want to move on. But it is difficult, isn't it? It is difficult to be able to express those feelings that we know are sometimes hurtful to both us and to other people, and to have to hear them and to have to absorb that and take them all in. And so what do we do? Most of us, we just go silent. We just don't say anything at all, and we just think to ourselves that we're just going to silently move on as if the other person just hasn't noticed.
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