Suzanne Noble gives dating advice for older adults on internet dating. She says the first step is being clear about what you want: casual dating or a committed relationship. Mismatched expectations are what derail most connections.
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Internet dating for oldies, part 6. God, there's just so much I can say about this topic, and this one is really about when you meet somebody for the first time and about being clear about what you want. Know what it is that you're actually looking for because you can easily get sidetracked if you meet somebody that seems really nice but you're on a completely different page. Sometimes you might meet someone who says that they just are looking for something casual, and suddenly you're thinking to yourself, yeah, well, they're saying they want something casual, but actually they really want something more serious. No, perhaps they don't. Maybe they actually just want something casual. Where somebody is looking for a long-term committed relationship, if that's what you want, come right out and say it, because there's no point going on numerous dates Maybe even getting really involved with someone only to discover that what you want is completely different.