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#tiktokpoll do you plan intimacy with your partner or leave it to one of you to be spontaneous?

8 Dec 2025 · 1 min

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In this short monologue, the speaker raises the common debate about whether couples should schedule their sex lives or rely on spontaneity. Acknowledging criticism that scheduling removes fun, she argues that busy modern lives—filled with work, friends, family, and other commitments—often leave little room for intimacy. She proposes that deliberately setting aside time for sex, complete with ambience (candles, music, lingerie), can help couples maintain a strong connection, especially in long‑term relationships where desire may wane. While she personally favors scheduled intimacy, she invites viewers to share their own positions on the issue.

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Where are you on the debate about whether or not it's a good idea to schedule your sex life, or schedule as Americans say? I know I sound American, but I've been in the UK so long that I say schedule. But yeah, I know a lot of people get on my case for saying that it removes the spontaneity. What's, you know, where's the fun in that? It's so much more fun just just be spontaneous, but you know, as older people and younger people, we've got busy lives, things to do, lots of activities going on, friends, family, etc. Hopefully anyway, and sometimes it can be hard to find time for intimacy with a partner, right? So that's where I think scheduling comes in. Just putting that time aside, knowing that there's not going to be anything else you need to worry about, nothing else that you need to do, light some candles, turn down the lights, put on some nice music, put on some sexy underwear, whatever, and just relax and have a really good time. And I think that's just one of the many ways that we can keep the intimacy alive, especially in long-term relationships where it might have just gone because, you know, it just does sometimes. So, um, I'm a big fan of scheduling sex, but not everybody is. Where do you stand on it?