Most people keep romantic fantasies secret out of fear, but sharing them rarely backfires and can deepen intimacy. Try writing a fantasy on a Post-it note and leaving it for your partner to find, then see what happens.
How much do you know about your partner's fantasies? Have you ever asked? Back when I was in my 20s, I can't recall ever speaking about my fantasies with anyone, but we've all got them. It's just that mainly we keep them to ourselves. But what would happen if we didn't? Sometimes the thought of that can be scary, and we can think that maybe our fantasies might lead to being rejected. But more often than not, they don't. How can you start? Well, just try writing down something that you've thought about, a little secret fantasy, and sticking it on a Post-it note and leaving it somewhere where it can be found. And then see what happens.
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