Suzanne NobleHost, Sex Advice for Seniors · Sex, Dating & Relationship Advice for Over 50s

What's the benefit of sex when you're older?

28 Dec 2022 · 2 min

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In this short monologue, the speaker challenges the common belief that sex loses its appeal with age. Drawing from personal experience, she notes that physiological responses—such as erection, lubrication, and orgasm—often take longer for older adults. Rather than viewing this slowdown as a drawback, she frames it as an advantage: it allows couples to eliminate the pressure of reaching a “finish line,” to linger, and to enjoy sex purely for pleasure. The speaker emphasizes a mindset shift from fast, goal‑oriented sexual encounters typical of youth to a relaxed, pleasure‑for‑its‑own‑sake approach in later life.

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What's so great about sex when you're older? I know that probably a lot of people are thinking there's nothing great about sex when you're older. It's all about being young and active and all that kind of stuff, but sex when you're older can be really fun. And part of that is around the fact that, well, frankly, it takes everybody, in my experience, a lot longer to do pretty much anything So takes longer for men to get it up. It can take longer for women to have an orgasm, to get wet. Everything just takes a lot longer. But the benefit in it taking longer is, of course, that you can just slow it all down. So there's no rush to get anywhere. You can just lay around all day long if you want and just fool around with no expectation of where it's going to go, what it's going to lead to. It can just be pleasure for pleasure's sake. And I think that's quite a revolutionary concept when we consider sex perhaps when we were younger and things were kind of quite fast and active. And they're always— for me anyway, felt like I was trying to get to the finish line. But when you're older, there is no finish line. Well, or the finish line can take a lot longer to get to. And I think You can put a positive spin on that and just take your time, relax, and just enjoy yourself.