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Why apps rarely deliver casual sex?

31 Dec 2022 · 1 min

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In this monologue, the speaker argues that while dating apps can be useful for finding relationships, they are largely ineffective for straight individuals seeking casual, in‑person sexual encounters. She observes that most interactions on these platforms devolve into sexting and fantasy, with very few translating into real‑world meetings. The speaker contrasts this with the success reported by users of LGBTQ‑focused apps like Grindr. Concluding that the most reliable way to find a casual partner is through physical venues—such as swinging clubs—where intentions are explicit, she recommends meeting people offline rather than relying on apps for heterosexual casual sex.

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Is it possible to have a casual encounter using an app? I know that some of you are looking for dates, and I still think that apps have their place when you're looking for a relationship, but if you're looking for a casual encounter and you're a heterosexual person— because I know plenty of people using Grindr and being very successful with that— but if you're just looking for a little bit of fun and you're a straight person, I suspect that most of it is just a complete waste of time, just people fantasizing in the same way that they do using porn about what they might like to do but have no intention of ever doing. There's so much sexting and texting and all this sort of stuff that goes on, which I just despise, frankly. But you know what? There's a lot of it that happens, and I suspect that Actually, there's very little that goes on in real life. So if you want to meet somebody for something like that, I still think that probably real-life places are still the best. And knowing that there's going to be some chemistry and maybe some frisson of excitement, and yeah, you probably have to go down the route of a swinging club or something like that where it's just clear what everybody there wants.