An older woman shares practical advice on oral sex, emphasizing genuine enthusiasm, consistent pressure around rather than directly on the clitoris, and asking your partner what feels good. She notes that communication matters more than technique, and that some women don't enjoy it at all, which is fine.
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Okay, let's talk about licking the bean. I think we all know what that means. As an older woman, I've had and experienced quite a bit of that. Some of it's been good, some of it not so good. And what I would say in general is that enthusiasm counts for so much. I'm with somebody at the moment, he absolutely adores it, probably more than any man I've ever met in my life, and that's saying a lot. And that just makes me feel so incredibly relaxed. I know that there's no rush, we're not going anywhere, and he can do that for as long as he wants or until I'm ready for him to stop. Secondly is, of course, it's— there is some technique involved in this. We're talking about licking around the bean, we're not talking about directly on it, and we're certainly not talking about pulling back the hood. Of course, the whole area is very sensitive. It's a whole erogenous zone, so you can play around with that as well. But continuity does count for a lot. It's about the consistency, keeping it up, the certain amount of pressure that your partner likes. And the only way you're going to know that is, of course, to ask them, does this feel good? How do you enjoy it? Some women like sitting on top. Some women just like lying back and letting themselves just be pleasured. Finally, of course, if it's not your thing, and I know that for some women it's not your thing, then it's not your thing. I get it. I've had men tell me they've been with women for whom it's not their thing, and you know what, that's all right too. But if you're really into it and both of you really enjoy it, you know what, that can be the whole main act, or it can just form part of foreplay. One thing I would say is if it is foreplay, the longer that you do it, the more fun that you're going to have later on, especially especially as an older person.
