Suzanne NobleHost, Sex Advice for Seniors · Sex, Dating & Relationship Advice for Over 50s

Why women aren't having sex with you. Part two.

14 Jan 2023 · 2 min

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In this segment, the presenter expands on why a woman's sexual interest may wane, emphasizing three core factors. First, a lack of equal effort in the relationship can act as a libido killer for women. Second, when couples see each other frequently, predictable "vanilla" sex can become boring, so the speaker urges men to be creative and introduce novelty to keep excitement alive. Third, effective communication is crucial: men should ask their partners how they like to be desired, listen attentively, and reflect that feedback back. The presenter also advises spacing out routine sex encounters to preserve the natural build‑up of desire that comes from distance and anticipation.

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Why women aren't having sex with you, part 2. Part 1, I was talking about the fact that if as a man you're not stepping up in the relationship on an equal basis, then that can sometimes be a real libido killer. But equally, if you're expecting sex more frequently, creativity and being creative is really important because sure, Most of us can enjoy fairly predictable vanilla sex with a partner, especially one that we may not see very often, because there's all that frisson of excitement just about seeing that person again and being intimate with them again, and all of that excitement creates its own juices and energy. But if you're seeing them more frequently and you're just having fairly predictable sex, then, for me anyway, it can get quite boring. And especially, we talk a lot about communication on Sex Advice for Seniors and the importance of communication, and one of the aspects of that is being able to express how you like to be desired and having that received, heard, and reflected back at you. So if someone tells you that they like to be desired in a certain way and you're not really hearing that, then again, that may eventually lead to, well, no sex. So if you want sex on a frequent basis, what I'd say is number 1, be creative. Number 2, ask people what they like, how they like it, and hear that and reflect it back at them. And 3, if you want to have just fairly predictable vanilla sex, then Space out the amount of time in which you have that. Distance does definitely help because you're just gonna create all those juices and exciting things happening in each other's body just from seeing each other again.