Suzanne NobleHost, Sex Advice for Seniors · Sex, Dating & Relationship Advice for Over 50s

Women Are Competing Over Orgasms?!

3 Jul 2026 · 2 min

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In this candid monologue, the speaker critiques the tendency among some women to engage in "orgasm one‑upmanship," where participants compare experiences of various alleged orgasm types—cervical, G‑spot, clitoral, etc. The speaker expresses personal skepticism about the proliferation of distinct orgasm categories, emphasizing a focus on the clear, clitoral orgasm. The narrative shifts to the dynamics of female‑only spaces, highlighting how vulnerability can surface when women admit difficulty being present during sex due to stress (e.g., mundane worries like an empty fridge). The discussion then moves to practical aspects of sexual encounters, such as sharing lubricants, with contrasting attitudes ranging from offering lube to claiming natural juiciness. Ultimately, the speaker notes that these conversations can sometimes leave her feeling worse rather than empowered, underscoring the complex emotional impact of peer discussions about sexuality.

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'What, you've never experienced a cervical orgasm?' And I'm like, 'No, I don't think I've ever experienced that.' And, 'What about this one and the G-spot and that one, the other one?' And I'm like, 'You know, it's not a competition here, girls.' I mean, I think sometimes I find amongst other women that sometimes there's a tendency to do a bit of what I call orgasm one-upmanship. And when I've talked about the fact that I'm not a great believer that there's like a zillion kinds of orgasms. And I'm just, I'm kind of quite focused on my clitoral orgasm, you know, because it's kind of very clear when I'm having one. And then people are like, no, you know, there's— I've spoken to Tantra practitioners, it's like, what, you've never experienced a cervical orgasm? And I'm like, no, I don't think I've ever experienced that. And what about this one and the G-spot and that one and the other one? And I'm like, you know, it's not a competition here, girls. To see who has had the most different types of orgasms here. And I think oftentimes it's when somebody does put them out there, out, put themselves out in that vulnerable way that you spoke about, where you said this woman admitted like, look, sometimes it's really difficult for me to be present. Sometimes I just have— I'm just too stressed out, and the only thing I'm thinking about is like the fact I don't have any milk in the fridge. And then other women often say, wow, I'm really glad you said that, because for me, often the conversation is the complete opposite. I'll go, oh, I've been given a load of bottles of lubes, does anybody want some lube? And I had somebody was like, I don't need lube, thanks, you know, I'm juicy enough, I don't need lube. And I'm like, well, you know, lube has all sorts of useful— and so I find sometimes for me it's about how in those female-only spaces you have the conversations, because sometimes for me I actually leave feeling worse than I do when I've gone