101. Increase Your Calm and Patience With THIS Perspective!

Welcome to the momset podcast, my friend. I'm your coach, Tessa Romero, and as a woman of God, an adoring wife, and a mother of three darling boys, I am passionate about giving you the tools you need to build a mindset skill set that enriches your experience through motherhood and daily life. I've had my fair share of challenges and hardship throughout my life, and that is exactly how I came to this place of finding purpose to my pain and helping you do the same. I know we can thrive right where we are at, and it's time for us to take back motherhood by being the mommy that we want to be right right now. Thank you for being here and making this a wonderful place for me to show up alongside you. It is completely worthwhile to spend time building your toolbox and acquiring more skills to help you stay calm and patient longer. Especially as a mom. This world can be filled with so much opposition, difficulty, challenge. And the more we can keep our mind in this space of curiosity and acceptance, understanding and control so that we are intentionally deciding what we think about a circumstance, the easier it will be. And I will just tell you that as I've gotten older and I've had more kids and my boys are getting older, I have truly never felt more grateful for this work because I feel like I'm like really parenting now. Like, I don't know, I don't know what, what age this really like started happening. I've got a five year old, three year old, one year old, and I'm pregnant with our fourth. And. And I just feel like having my five year old, it requires so much skilled perspective in order to stay calm and patient longer. And then my 3 year old's really intense, large emotions and occasional aggressive reactions again require much more patience and this calm demeanor from me. And that's what I really want to give them. And I'm telling you, the way that I give that and stay in that space longer is through mindset. I approach it with a mentality that is different than I would say the normal. It's different than the message that's constantly being pushed about. Moms are overwhelmed, moms are overstimulated, we're all angry, we've all had enough, we don't get enough help. Like this whole message that if you choose to live in that, what kind of mindset are you going to have? So this episode, I really wanted to dedicate it to the opportunity of you figuring out what is the perspective you can have that would allow you to have a more Calm demeanor and patience that outlasts whatever it is the hard moment is presenting in that moment because they pass. Hard moments pass. Hard moments pass. And you can be more equipped and honestly just at peace in those hard moments because you just know this is going to pass. Now, I have more to give you here in this episode than just it'll pass. Buckle up, buttercup. Get secure in your safety harness, because, yeah, we're going through a hard moment and it's going to pass. Although that is true that it's going to pass. It's. There's a better way for us to approach it that I use almost daily in my motherhood, and I love it so, so much. So it is likely that you or someone you know has a mentality that says, kids should listen. They should listen. They should do what I asked them to do the first time. They should obey. They should just do what I said and not ask questions. And if you have a mentality like that, I just want you to consider, what are you setting yourself up to think when. Not if your kids don't listen, When. When your kids don't listen, when they have not immediately done the thing that you asked them to do, when they ask a question before doing the thing that you asked them to do. Like, what are you setting yourself up to think next? It's certainly not going to be, oh, this is understandable. And, wow, I love that he's taking the time to learn why this is important and instill a belief of his own to take initiative to do this, because he's. He's going to want to do the things that are important. Like, okay, I love this. You're not going to think that you're going to go right to that. This shouldn't be happening. Oh, my gosh, of course you're taking more time. I can never get anything done. Why does everything have to be a battle with you? And you're armoring up in your defenses and seeing problems over people and people as problems, and I want to be able to help you with that, because people are not problems. There are certainly problems in the world, and people are not one of them. We are all doing the best we can to our mental and physical capacity. And if you really consider the mental and physical capacity of your child, it is just a lower capacity than you. And that is rightfully so because you have more experience than they do. So this is the thought that I want you to have that will increase your ability to remain calm in your demeanor and have increased patience through the hard moments. And that is really two big perspectives in this. And number one, it's I just need to last one minute longer than them. One minute longer than you is all I need to do. And I'm telling you, when I have that perspective and my 5 year old has some words that are not kind and my three year old has large emotions and my one year old, goodness, you know, just does his best to communicate too. When all of this is happening in my life and in my day, I understand I just need to last one minute longer than you. If my kids have the capacity to have this 15 minute meltdown, then I certainly have the capacity for 16 minutes of patience. If my children have the capacity for this 3 minute intense brawl in my living room, then I certainly have the capacity for four minutes of teaching and guidance and calmness and security and confidence around them. Just one minute longer, if you really think about that, it's, it's one minute longer than your baby crying for you in the night. It's one minute longer than the amount of time it takes your baby to fall asleep when you're trying to get them to sleep. It's one minute longer than, than your child's tantrum or their insistent demands for something and you're like, hardline, this is a no, there's the boundary. You freaking found it and I'm not budging. You don't need to budge on what you said you're going to do. You just need to last one minute longer than the person that's involved in this with you. And to me, that's so empowering to know that I don't need to have just hours and hours and hours of calm and patience and never feel like, oh wow, this is actually really freaking hard. That's not the goal. The goal is to just understand that when it feels hard, the best thing I can do for myself is last one minute longer than them. If we are talking about something important and their emotions are rising. And of course as children, they're still learning how to communicate kindly when they feel angry. We all needed to learn how to do that. And personally, I still know a lot of adults that need to learn that. And you know, it's, it's an intentional focus, it's an intentional effort. And what we model is going to be the greatest way that we teach always. So if I can model lasting one minute longer, not that I always feel calm, patient, understanding, just nothing bothers me, gets under my skin, no, that's not it at all. I can feel frustrated in that moment and understand the Best thing I can do right now is last one minute longer than you, One minute longer than my baby crying, one minute longer than Luke's massive meltdown, one minute longer than Liam's hurtful words that can be said one minute longer. And in that, this is what I think is really cool about the perspective of one minute longer. You just have to last one minute longer than their tantrum, their pushback, their resistance. You ask them to get in the bath, they say, no, last one minute longer than that. They're still going to get in the bath. We are still brushing our teeth. We are. We are heading out the door. And if this is the position that we're in, I can certainly last one minute longer than you. What I think is so cool about that is you have so much more experience than your kids. Seriously, if they can push back on something for 10 minutes, I can certainly hold my ground for 11. Like, this is. This is just not even a question. You're five years old. I'm 29. I freaking got this on lockdown. Like, come on, let's go, kiddo. And you build and instill so much confidence in yourself through the opportunity to parent through this lens of one minute longer. And then you're able to take that newfound perspective of yourself, of just how calm and patient you really are and how secure you are in what you know is going to get done. And you take that into other circumstances and other relationships of, I just have to last one minute longer than you. Like, you're going to come back down. And to me, it's this message of, and mentality of setting a tone. And my kids have a tone in their hard moments and just throughout the day, and so do I. And in any moment we have the opportunity to either set a tone or match somebody else's tone. I don't want to match the tone of my three year old. My. When it just seems like he's unhitched. Like, at this point in time, this is an unhitched moment for him. I don't want to match that tone. I don't want to become unhitched. Are you freaking kidding me? I don't want to match Drew's tone. My one year old, when he is hitting and screaming for what he wants. Like, I, no, thank you. I don't want to really match that. When my 5 year old is saying really hurtful things and he's having a very difficult time with his emotions and there are just. There's just displays of that. I don't want to match that tone. I would rather set my tone and understand that so long as I last one minute longer than you, you are going to match my tone. Because that's what we do. We are constantly either matching somebody else's tone or setting a tone. And setting a tone comes with a lot of intention behind it. You don't just accidentally set a tone that's different than the room you're in or the people you're around. Like that is a very intentional decision to make. And you can do that. And it will increase this calm demeanor and patience about you because you have only. You haven't set the intention to fix things and control people of all the things they should be doing. No, you set an intention of I just need to last one minute longer than them and they will match my tone. They'll come back down, they'll meet me where I'm at. So long as I stay here, I, I will be met. If you rise up to meet them, what's going to stop them from going even higher and then you going even higher and everything else gets escalated because we did not go in with the intention of setting a tone and lasting one minute longer for it to be met. And that is an opportunity that you have, especially in parenting. And the way that you get to view yourself as that empowered, confidence, secure woman because you know the power of your tone and that intention you set behind it, you bring that into your other relationships with your spouse, with your in laws, your friends, your co workers, anyone that approaches you and they're in their hard moment. You just know, I just need to last one minute longer than you so that you meet my tone instead of me matching yours. And you just think that, think about the tone you're setting and it takes one minute longer than what they're doing and the next perspective that really helps you. So there's two here. So number one, you're setting a tone and waiting one minute longer for them to meet it instead of you deciding to match somebody else's. And I'm telling you they will match your tone so long as you wait that one minute, your tone will be matched. The second perspective in here, that really just skyrockets your ability at a calm demeanor and, and seemingly endless patience is the idea of what I mentioned earlier of you set this boundary, you know, teeth will be brushed, we are leaving the house, you are taking a bath. Like these things, maybe there's just like it's time for dinner, whatever it is, or you're asking for your child's help. These things are part of our Daily reality and parenting. And the issue is not our child's resistance to doing the things, especially immediately that we ask them to do. Very rarely is it truly urgent in this life or death manner that we need them to do the exact thing we ask them to do in order for like all of our safety and well being to be protected. Very, very rarely is it out of the street, the car's coming, like you know something's heading your way, move to the side. Like very rarely is it that urgent that it's just life or death. You're about to be injured. We need to take quick action. The bath is not life or death. Brushing teeth, getting dressed, leaving the house unless the house is on fire is not life or death. And truly think about if you were in that position that it was that urgent. I feel quite certain that your kids would pick up on that urgency as well. They would see the severity just like you do. And the issue with like the daily stuff being looked at as so urgent is because our kids are still in this beautiful state of not feeling completely rushed and in this sense of urgency and immediacy when it comes to life. And that's a really beautiful thing. And it's like, are we going to protect the really beautiful nature of a present, intentional conscious way of living or are we going to say no, no, no, no, no, you need to be, you need to be urgent, you need to be immediate, you need to be rushed. Which do we want? And that takes a lot of reconditioning in us too to say, oh man, like I've got to really slow myself down too because I can know that teeth are going to be brushed and I'm going to let you know it's time to brush your teeth and it may not be done immediately. I told my two boys this is where it really came from. My three year old and five year old got into a little brawl together and physical altercation. And I have come to find that offerings space. Offering the opportunity of what it looks like to walk away and take space has been a massive blessing for our family and it requires a lot of gentle teaching and reminding of when that opportunity arises. What does that look like again? Oh yeah. This is that time that we take space and walk away because we feel, this is the feeling of anger and frustration. So we take our space and walk away so everyone stays safe. And that's what I really want to instill in my boys. And anyway, they get into this fight and I am offering this space and think, you know, Liam loves a good bath. He loves a good bath by himself. It's later in the evening. I'm just gonna have him bathe first tonight. I tell him. All right, Liam, it's time for you to take a bath. No, I'm not taking a bath. Oh, okay. Well, it is time to take a bath. So would you like me to turn on the bath water, or are you gonna go turn on the bath water? I'm not taking a bath. I need some space. I'm going to my room. I'm not taking a bath. Okay. All right, buddy. Well, you can go to your room first, and then when you're ready, I'll have the bath on for you. And he just was not having it, not having it at all. And this is where that mentality of one minute longer. Does it feel frustrating for me to be talked to that way as a mother? Yeah. Does it feel frustrating to see my boys fighting seemingly, yet again? Yes, it does. It does feel frustrating, and I want to set a different tone, because displaying this tone of frustration simply matches where they're at, and it's just going to escalate everything. So if I can recognize, okay, I'm feeling frustrated right now, here's why, and here's what I want to do about it that aligns with who I want to be, then it's easier for me to get into that headspace of one minute longer. Like, I'm going to feel a whole lot better through every freaking minute, every minute, because I know that I'm setting an intentional tone. I'm in control of me, and this feels really good. And I'm proud of the way that I'm showing up. And while my child is having a hard time, I am not pouring gasoline on the fire. Let me freaking tell you that. Like, I am. I am the safety blanket that gets laid down, and I love that. I love that opportunity in parenting. I love that about myself. And it's been a long time coming for me to be able to see that. That side of myself. And it's very rewarding, very fulfilling, even in the hard moments. And I know it would be for you too. So when he resists and push back, and I'm able to just say, okay, here's the thing. I don't pursue the argument of, yes, you are. You are getting in the bath right this second. Is the bath urgent? No. Is this life or death? Does it have to be done right now? Do I need him to say, yes, mom, right this second? No, I don't. I really, really don't. And I shared this on Instagram. And I talked about one minute longer. And I talked about this perspective of setting a tone. And I talked about this perspective of, you know, it doesn't have to be immediate. I don't need my kids to immediately do what I asked them to do. And that is so freeing. It's so freeing to know it'll still be done. And when it does get done, we will all be in a mutually respectful place. And that feels a lot better than me pouring gasoline on their fire. We're getting into an altercation together argument, and we feel tension between us because why we rushed? Like, why is all this happening? It doesn't have to happen this way and you could still take a bath. And I was talking about that on Instagram and I got so many messages that were saying, like, how helpful this is. So I wanted to turn to a podcast episode and I got a couple that were saying, you know, I was raised being taught that delayed obedience is still disobedience. And while I can see that perspective, I also want us to consider. How many times every single single day do you delay obedience? How many times every single day do you know what needs to be done and you delay doing it? It's not just our kids. Like, it's not just them that don't want to do it right that second. It's also us. I don't always want to do the laundry and unload my dryer and put the. Put the laundry away as soon as that timer goes off. And yet that would be a more obedient thing to do, right? Sometimes I feel this, this urge, this intuition, this calling from God of, like, you need to do this. And I'm like, that. That feels really freaking intimidating, let me tell you. Jesus. So I'm gonna need to sit with that for a minute, right? Like, I'm a human with emotions and experiences and some. Some fears, insecurities. Like, since when are any of us being immediately obedient? I just don't see it. So why would I expect my kids to do something that I know for a fact I'm not doing very well either? I think there's a lot of space, a lot of compassion for that Me too. Idea of, you know, I face that too. I don't always jump up and be obedient to the first thing that you ask me to do. I mean, seriously, if your kids ask you to do something, are you like racing over there and it's like a one second time difference between when they asked you to do something and you actually did It. Or is there ever a. When I'm done with this. Just a minute. Yeah, I'll be there. We can do that at 2:00'. Clock. Like, why is it only one. One way. Why is it only one way when it's likely that our kids have a better perspective of life than we do a lot of times, and it would be better for us to follow their example sometimes than to try and get us. Get them to match our rushed, urgent, emergency perspective about the bath. Anyway, so all this unfolds and I'm literally sitting with the perspective of, I know you're gonna take a bath. Like, that is very clear. I'm not going to change my mind because you're having a hard time. I'm not going to change my mind because you told me no. I am willing to wait. I am willing to allow you the opportunity to make a good choice and to see your behavior for what it is. We have to understand that in parenting, every single time, every single time, you match your child's tone and that. That tone that they've set and maybe you raise your voice because they're raising their voice and you say something hurtful because they said something hurtful, and, and you're saying no because they said no or whatever it is every single time you do that, you strip them of the opportunity to just focus on their own behavior because they're too busy thinking about yours now. And I call that stepping in front of somebody else's mirror every time you step out of alignment with who you want to be and you call the attention onto you, and now you're feeling guilty about something you did and you're like, okay, now I need to repair this. What would there be to repair? And if we stayed in alignment with who we want to be, we could finally just let our kids see their behavior for what it is and keep the entire focus on that and be effective teachers. Be effective in teaching the lesson when they've been able to calm back down, match our tone, and then we can play out what happened and what we can do next time. And it's not a buddy. Gosh, I'm sorry I yelled at you, but you really need to listen. It's not a man. Mommy could have handled that a lot better. And I'm sorry. Like, I. I am all for repair. I am all for repair. I think it is. It's such a crucial thing to be able to do and, and to teach our kids and to be able to model and, and it's not about perfection. Like, there are totally Times that I repair with my kids, I just really don't think repairing is the most important part. I think proactive and proactivity and intention are the most important part. Do I really want to repair so often? Does repairing have the same impact and value? If I'm constant, if I'm repairing more than I'm teaching, if I'm repairing more than I'm setting an example that I'm proud of, I don't think repair that to me would be like my husband continuously doing something that I feel upset about, and we continuously have a conversation about it, and he continuously apologizes and. And we repair and then he just doesn't goes and does it again. That would feel really hurtful and very difficult. Much more difficult than having like a one time conversation about repair and then seeing improved behavior. And to me, that's the idea of repair is being able to recognize where you are out of alignment and make your plan of improved behavior and share that with the people involved. That's, to me, excellent repair. And then you actually do it and follow through. So when I let Liam take his space and I still know the bath is coming, you're getting in the bath, and I'm doing an excellent job lasting one minute longer than you. My tone is very open and inviting, and I know you're about to match it. We are almost through this hard moment. Like, great job, Tess. And, you know, I can just give myself that pep talk by time he gets in the bath. Like, it's just. It's so much more, like, quick to get back to ease than if I were to have been out of alignment doing things I'm not proud of. And now he's in the bath and he feels upset towards me and really hurt, and I feel upset towards him and all my other boys. And then I'm just looking at it as like, okay, when's this freaking day gonna be over? Like, I am. I'm tapped out for the day. I'm done with the day. When's this day gonna be over? Then of course my mind's gonna go there. And what I just loved about this too is when Liam did get in the bath, I went in there and talked to him because he had hit Luke when they got into their fight. And we're working really hard on what to learn to do instead and prepare ourselves to do instead. When we want to hit, what can we do instead? And you know what? That's just really hard to learn when you've got brothers and somebody hits you first or like, you're just feeling like you get beat up or feeling just like overcome with these emotions. It just takes so many, so many opportunities to really learn and understand how to do it, what it looks like, how you want to do it, what feels good and natural for you. So this is an ongoing lesson that we learned. And when Liam was in the bath, I came and talked to him. And before I said a single word, he said, mom, I really don't like it when you tell me when to get in the bathroom. And I said, you know, I can see that. And it would feel really difficult to feel like somebody else is telling you what to do and when to do it. And, and that does feel really hard. And I wanted to give you the chance to get in the bath because I know how important it is to you to be able to walk away and have space when you and Luke are having a hard time. So I was, I was really trying to create space for both you and Luke and, and think about what you would enjoy doing on your own in that opportunity. And I can see how it's really hard for you to feel like you just have to get in the bath because mom said to get in the bath and that was not my intention. And I'm able to feel proud of my choice, share my perspective of my choice, still feel that is the choice I would make again in 10 minutes like this is. I would do that again, you know, still feel that way and then call the attention to the behavior during their, during their little friction filled moment together. And what, what happened? What can we do next time? Why do you think Luke did that? Like asking him better questions. And again, the focus got to stay on him and Luke and their hard moment instead of it becoming my hard moment. So these two perspectives are truly just. They're so expansive to your mind, even in hard moments. And if you just take them away from this episode and apply them to any hard moment that may be coming up this week, be it with your kids or in work or in spouse. With your, with your spouse, number one, it's one minute longer. You just have to last one minute longer than anything or anyone else. And when you think about your kids like they're going to throw a 15 minute tantrum, so you're going to last 16 minutes. They're going to resist putting on their buckles in the car for three minutes, so you're going to last four minutes. They're refusing to put on their shoes to walk out the door and that's going to last three minutes. So you last four Minutes. When you really think about how much time it takes, it is not much time. And for those listening that are like, oh, so we're just supposed to be late everywhere we go. Well, first of all, you can plan accordingly. If you know that your kids have a hard time getting out the door, putting on shoes, getting in buckles, and it just always seems to take a bit longer than you anticipated. Plan for that, Intend for that. How much easier would it be for you if you knew, oh, I already, I already budgeted in 15 minutes for this and it only took four. So really, we're ahead. Like, wouldn't that feel really exciting and, and better? Because you allowed your, your mom brain, your mental load and motherhood to truly understand your kids, their quirks and personalities and characteristics, and plan accordingly for them instead of putting them in the should box of what they should be doing. And, and then we're, and then we're sitting in this victim mentality, sulking that it's all just happening to us. It doesn't have to be that way. So if you planned accordingly that that's where the resistance typically lies, you would again feel more calm because you're like, and you're expecting it instead of expecting them to just listen the first time. Which, honestly, when do you listen the first time? I, I wouldn't say it's very often that I listen to the buzzer going off on my dryer the first time. You know, I've got some improvements to make and I'm okay with that. And I see it in my kids too, and I'm okay without them. So you just need to last one minute longer. And again, for my friends that are just here thinking like, oh, it's going to be so much harder. It's going to be harder for me to last longer than them. Let me tell you this. It is harder, sure to last longer. And it's harder to be out of alignment with who you want to be. And right now it really is one of those choose your hard moments. Do you want the hardship of not being who you told yourself you want to be, which to me is completely unbearable. That's like the hardest that it gets. Or do you want the hardship of a 16 minute stretch of, all right, I'm sinking deeper into who it is that I want to be, and 16 minutes on the clock, let's freaking go. Like, you know, which kind of hard. Do you want? The heart of an intentional challenge that you accepted or the heart of unintentionality and just victim mentality and reactive behaviors? That you feel guilty about and you're trying to figure out how to repair and wondering if you repair too much and what repair is really doing at this point. Like, you have a choice to make here and it takes, I'm telling you, it takes less time, less time to handle things in a way that you feel proud of and invite others to meet your tone than it does to match their tone and handle things in a way that you do not feel proud of. You might think, yeah, but they get in the bath faster. Okay, and what are the repercussions of that? Are you feeling connected with them? Are they having fun and a good time? Are they thinking about the hurtful things that you said and are you thinking about the hurtful things that they did? That requires more time, more energy, more mental capacity from you. And it's ongoing. It lingers. We're laying there feeling guilty at bedtime like it's an all day freaking thing. When that happens, if, if you're lucky, it's a one day thing. And then most times it's like all week it was like this and you spend and then you look at the end of the week and you're like, wow, I spent so much time out of alignment with who I want to be. I'm not proud of the way that I handled these things. Why? I really wish I would have showed up better to these things. So instead of it caught, instead of it spending 16 minutes and being a stretch and challenge for 16 minutes, it now became a one week marathon of guilt and remorse and victim mentality and just built on tension from the week. So now we're reacting on things that happened three freaking days ago instead of just living in the moment that we're in. It takes less time, less time for you to accept a 15 minute challenge to prove to yourself, this is really who I am. This is really who I freaking am. And I will prove it to you. For the next 15 minutes or one hour, however long it takes, I will freaking be this person. And you just declare that you're going to save yourself so much time because there's not the lingering consequences and repercussions of the time spent out of alignment. It's, it's truly the lingering upswing. It's the, it's the lingering of, of joy and pride and fulfillment and accomplishment that you're like, wow, I handled that so well. Like, I love the way I asked that question. Like, wow, that's something that I want to be able to ask him again. I see how it applies to all These people, too. And I really can do this like that. You're going to build on momentum and have more, More awesome moments like that. So, number one, you just need to last one minute longer than whoever it is that you are engaging with, involving with, and most certainly your kids. One minute longer than them. You have way more experience than they do. You can for sure do it. I just know you can. And that second perspective is, is you're willing to wait. You're willing to know. It's been said. I've set it in motion. It is happening. And I'm willing to wait for them to get on board. It's. It's okay for it to take a couple minutes for them to decide this is the right thing to do? Is it better for us to tell them and then blindly accept this is the right thing to do or for them to be able to dec. For themselves this is the right thing to do? Which one do you think brings lasting cooperation and lasting collaborative effort in the home and family? The one where our kids understand this is our morals, this is our values, this is our family, our shared family vision. And it matters. It's important. And I'm going to make this decision because I know it's the right decision, not because somebody just told me to do it. I. I am okay with. With the questions about why, because if I can teach you why in a way that it matters to you, too, well, gosh, we're going to start sharing a vision together, and we're going to have more cooperation and, And a shared family value instead of just because mom said so. That's kind of. I don't know. It's not really the vision that I want for my family. And it's just. It's worth it for you to know that. So that's your second piece that you're really focusing on. So, number one, one minute longer. Number two, you've set it in motion, and you're willing to wait for them to come match your tone and get on board. You're not just going to say, okay, fine, don't brush your teeth. Okay, fine. Don't wear your seatbelt. Okay, fine. Don't put on your shoes. No, it's just. Well, all right, we'll leave as soon as your shoes are on. Let's sit here. And as soon as your shoes are on, we will walk out the door together. We are not playing. We are not moving. We're not having a snack. We're not doing anything else. This is the only option. And I will sit here lovingly and kindly and compassionately with you and show you, I will not leave you. I will be here right by you, and we will still be doing this together. This is the only option, and it can still happen. And you can do it in a way that you feel proud of and maybe it doesn't look exactly like that and you just decide, you know what, it may not look exactly like that. It could really look like this, though, and I think that's freaking great. These are examples. So I love you. I'm proud of you. You're doing a great job. Take these two perspectives and goodness gracious, go, go embody your calm demeanor and abundance of patience coming straight from a freaking fountain. This endless well of PA patience just because you have a perspective that actually serves you. That's where it's coming from. That's how I do it. And. And I sure do hope that it serves you. Oh, my sweet friend, thank you for joining me on this week's episode of the momset podcast. Please take a minute to leave a review and share the show. If you loved it, I'd love to stay connected as we continue to learn and grow in motherhood right alongside each other.