12. Three Points That Make Building a Positive Mindset Easier

Hello, my beautiful friend, and welcome to the Mind Body Alignment podcast. I'm your host, Tessa Romero, and also your coach. I'm here to help teach you all the skills, tools, and encouragement that you need to not only know who you are, but how to become exactly who you want to be, while going through a healing journey that allows you to build a mindset that finally supports you. I'm so glad that you're here. Let's get started. All right, sweet friend, let's dive right in. I hope you're having the best day. I always hope that for you, because I truly want that for you. But I know that as you're on this journey of building out your positive mindset and a mindset overall that supports you, whatever you want to call that, it can feel like. When does it get easier? Well, I wanted to record a special episode just for you to talk about three ways that you can focus on making your journey to a positive mindset easier. Three things that can really help. So we're going to dive into there, and at the end of this episode, I am going to give you some journaling exercises to do. It was requested that I start doing those more. And I honestly, like, I love feedback like that because it helps me know what am I providing that's helping you the most? And then I try to do more of that, and journaling exercises were requested more. So. So here we go. You'll find that at the end. Now, the three things that we're going to discuss today are honestly really easy. They're simple, and when I present them to you, I don't want you to let your mind create some negative thoughts about. Well, it just can't be that easy. There's no way that it's that simple. That's just a negative mindset about it. Right? Like, let's catch our thoughts about everything that we can, including what I give you here. Because the great part about simplicity is that it's not complicated. Like, when our mind complicates things, it basically talks us out of it. It's like, well, that's way too hard for me to do. If I make it really complicated, which I totally could, we could complicate this. If I did that, then you would say, well, that's too complicated. I can't do that. And you're always looking for evidence to prove what you believe about yourself to be true. So you're looking for the evidence of, I know I can't do that. Or, see, I knew it was going to be too difficult for me to Heal. You're trying to find evidence for what you believe to be true, but it's not true. So what I'm going to share with you, yes, they're going to sound really simple. Let them be simple. They're easy enough to do. That's the point. That's my entire coaching technique is, yes, it could be complicated, but let's make it a little bit easier so that there's no way to talk ourselves out of doing it so that we can finally have some positive self talk that you that says, I can do this. This is what I want to do. Oh, wow, that's a great game plan that I can follow. I can implement that routine. We need more of that I can do mindset and that self belief. So I hope you can feel how excited I am to discuss these three points with you. So number one, let's dive in. The first thing you're going to do, it sounds really simple, is stop accepting your thoughts as facts. That's right. Changing your mindset gets a lot easier when you stop assuming that every thought you have is a fact, because every thought you have is not a fact. And in fact, a lot of our thoughts are complete BS made up. And if it is a fact, what likely happened was your mind took one tiny fraction of factual information and then built an entire story around it. Why? Because you're creative, your mind is brilliant, and we don't want to limit it. We just need to give it more structure and guidance. And the way to do that when trying to build out a positive mindset is knowing my thoughts are not facts. So if my thoughts are pissing me off, I can change them because they're not facts. And I'm going to give you some examples here. So when you're thinking about my husband never does what he says he's going to do. That is not a fact. That's not a fact. It's convenient. And it paints us out to be the victims because it's our husband's fault. He never does what he says he's gonna do. So I can't do what I say I'm gonna do. Like no. Take full ownership over you and let your husband take full ownership of himself. Lead by example, right? Be who you want to be and model the behaviors that you want to see. That's the greatest game plan. But when we have these constant thoughts of he never does what he says he's going to do, he doesn't even care to help. Wow. He can't even think for himself and just see what needs to be done next. You have all this talk about your husband. It's not true. Those are not facts. Those are not facts. Right. It's just the story that you're telling yourself. So when we stop allowing negative thoughts to be viewed as facts, it's easier to change them. So when people always ask me, when does it get easier to change your minds? That this is so much work, girlfriend. You are thinking something anyway all the time. All the time. You're thinking something anyway, and it's going to get easier, right? But you have to also imagine, like, how long have you been thinking negatively? I'm going to imagine years. The majority of your life that you can remember you've been thinking negatively. And we're going to talk about that more when we go through the journaling exercises and how you can help yourself. But it's going to take more than a week to change over to like, this natural state of mind being a more positive place. And that's okay because guess what? You have the time. Time passes at the same exact pace every single day, and you can always rely on it to be consistent. So regardless if you're going to focus on the negative or the positive, times passing, right? So we might as well take ownership of what we can, and that's to stop accepting our thoughts as facts. You have this initial thought about your kids, you always whine, that's not a fact. That's not a fact. And sometimes all we have to ask ourselves is, is that true? Like, that's your grounding statement. That's how you get back into consciousness and mindfulness to start building back to. Hold on a second. This isn't the place I want to be in. I want to be in a more positive place. How do I get there? Well, first I need to acknowledge if this thought that I'm having is even true before I give it all this power and decide literally what my next actions are going to be based off of this freaking thought and how I'm going to feel based off of this freaking thought. Seriously, thoughts create feelings, right? Thoughts, feelings, actions, outcomes. It all starts with thoughts. So before we let our thoughts have that much control and power, let's at least make sure that they're true or truer than they were before, right? So because sometimes we don't have all of the factual information, right? So it's just like, well, I don't know the truth. Well, come up with something that's truer than what you were saying. So that's my first point that I really want you to take in is to stop accepting your thoughts as facts. They're not facts. They can be challenged. An opinion can be changed. A story can be twisted in a different direction when you don't like the way that it's going. You're the author, right? You can change your story whenever the frick you want to. That's the beauty of writing your own book. You get to decide how it goes. So yeah, that's our first point. Stop accepting your thoughts as facts. It makes changing your mindset so much easier when you don't believe that every single thought you have is a factual piece of information, because it's not. Now, point number two is to explore more of where something is coming from. So getting curious over furious. Remember, it's easy to get very reactive based off of your thoughts. You think something about your kids and then all of a sudden you have a super short temper with them. Why? Well, because thoughts create feelings. And the story you're telling yourself is your kids are really annoying. So now everything that you're looking for in your kids is how they're annoying you. It's not your kids, it's you. It's not my kids, it's me. It's not my husband, it's me. It's not the person that cut me off on the freeway, it's me. It's what I think about them. And when we can see how much power is right there, literally within us, it's right freaking there. And when we can see that, like it doesn't matter what you do, I decide what I think about it. That is a phenomenal piece of information for you to really grasp and hold onto. But knowing where your thoughts are coming from is also extremely empowering because oftentimes when we're having a lot of negative self talk or just negative beliefs about our reality. And remember, your thoughts create your reality. So when we're having a lot of negative views about our entire life, we think there's something wrong with us. What's wrong with me? Why am I like this? I can never change. And what is that? We've talked about that. Guys, what is it? Pop quiz. That's shame. What's wrong with me? Why am I like this? I'm such a screw up. I can never change. That's shame. Because it's an attack on self and all that negative self talk without having an understanding of why it's here, where it's coming from, anything like any type of question behind it and we just have total acceptance of it. Like we talked about in point number one, without really discovering where it's coming from, we think there's something wrong with us. Now, I've told you in past episodes, every time we talk about shame, there is nothing wrong with you. There is nothing wrong with you. You are capable of change. You can do this. You've changed one way, you can change another. You think one way, you can think another. You are limitless. Absolutely limitless. Powerful beyond measure. Literally, you are when you believe it, when you believe it. So the beauty of knowing where your thoughts are coming from and better understanding why you do what you do is because it's a lot easier to get steer clear of that shame storm and exit the negativity when you're ready. And you feel like you're empowered again. Because it's like, well, I don't really think this about my kids. I feel maybe I'm thinking this way again. We may not know the entire fact, but let's tell a truer story. I really think that I have this negative view of my kids because I've been consuming so much negative content about motherhood and listening to one of my favorite influencers talk about her kids, and she says a lot of negative things about them. And then I started thinking that way about my kids. I. Oh, my gosh, it makes so much sense. Or take it back to your childhood, maybe someone always said something about you specifically, or about parenting, about marriage, about career, about finances. So when we have negative. A lot of negative thoughts attached to any area of our life, anything at all, yourself and any other area, it's worth exploring why these thoughts are here, especially why they're here so consistently. Why the frick does this thought keep showing up? Why do I believe this? It's not because it's a fact. Now explore that more. We know it's not a fact. It's not a fact that working is hard or working is exhausting. It's not a fact that motherhood is monotonous. Yet we hear it all the time. Kids are annoying, Kids are selfish. Kids are a holes. We hear it all the time. But it's not a fact. The. Those are. That's someone's mindset. And maybe you've adopted that. And it's very powerful to see. Like, oh, my gosh, this has been a choice to believe these things because they're not factual pieces of information that I need to accept about life. Right? That there's 24 hours in a day. Okay, that would be a fact. The sun rises and sets and the moon and the. Whatever. Like okay, those would be facts of life that I need to accept. But you're still going to have a mindset about it. Is it enough time in a day? Is it not enough time in a day? That's a freaking mindset. It's amazing, truly amazing how much all of this is mindset and how much you hear about other people's mindsets. And yet we accept it as factual pieces of information and we adopt it to be our own perspective, even though all we're doing is taking on somebody else's hurt, applying it to our own life. And that just to me is the most like, self sabotaging act that we can do to turn our own mind against ourselves and against our life and against our kids and our abilities to make more money and our ability to fulfill our dream life of living on a farm and homeschooling and your husband working from home, like whatever your dream is. I don't know, I'm just saying, like, would we attach to other people's mindsets, adopt them as our own, and then just fulfill our lives thinking that way without ever questioning, when did I start thinking this way? Why do I think this way? Do I really think my kids are annoying or did I just hear that somewhere else? Do I really think that work is stressful or I can't handle the mental load? I just barely did Instagram tv. If you guys want to go check it out on my Instagram account. Chris. Gosh, I don't even remember the title of it. I don't really put much effort into the title of those. So anyway, it's a recent one. I was talking about Mental Load because this is not what this episode's about. So I just want you guys to know there's so much mindset behind Mental load and yet we're hearing about it very commonly right now. It's a hot topic of conversation within the motherhood community. So it's like the mental load of motherhood or. Which I believe in. I do. There's. There's a lot that falls on a mother and I. I totally agree. But does it sound empowering to say, like, to listen to a mom talk about what she's going through and then to just tell her, oh, sweetheart, that's just the mental load of motherhood. There's nothing you can do about that. We all have that. Sorry, does that sound empowering at all? What is, what, what are we supposed to do with that? What are we supposed to do with just hearing about and seeing these reels and these infographics come our way and carousels and all, all the freaking content coming our way constantly. And this is why I'm saying, know where your mindset's coming from. Know where it's coming from. Because a lot of times it's not you. It's not you that really thinks this way. It's been the influence that someone else, Something else has had on you. But how, like, how is it helpful to constantly consume this information of like, mental load. Mental load. Mental load. Yeah, we're all thinking about, did I do the bottle, did I do the dishwasher, did I do the laundry and then that errand and the bill and what's for dinner and all these things. Sure, those are thoughts that we can have. But like, are we teaching women how to actually navigate that or are we just normalizing it? That's my question. Because I personally, I don't relate to the mental load. Like, I, I believe in it. I really do. Like, I believe that our thoughts can be all consuming. I believe that we can focus on things that we don't have to focus on in any given moment. I believe that we can become consumed in our negativity and without proper structure, self discipline and routines, we can get lost in everything that needs. I'm doing air quotes, needs to be done in a day. We totally can. And I get that. But I don't relate to it. I don't relate to it because I communicate. I've learned things that help me that may not work for everybody, but at least I didn't just stay stuck in mental load. And I, and I personally believe, this is my opinion, you guys may not agree with me, but I just believe that a lot of times we'll normalize something and then we leave women hanging. We leave women hanging. We don't give them a game plan to get out of it. We don't, we don't give them tools and skills to help maneuver through it and say, you know what, if you're here, let's get you here. Here's what you can try. It's all. So much comes back to this victim state where there's nothing we can do because we're moms. I just, I don't believe it. And I'm not going to get stuck there. So in my mind, no, I can have days that I do laundry. I can agree. Like, I can decide that I love vacuuming my floors once a day because my dogs never stop shedding. And, you know, that's just a fact of life that I'm going to have to accept. I can, I can have staple meals in my home that it's just easy for me to think like, oh, this is for dinner. I can keep my stress low. I can prioritize sleep, I can communicate to my spouse. I can pull on more resources when I need them. But I am not stuck. I am not stuck and neither are you. And that was my two minute tangent about mental load that I can't wait to hear the feedback on because it was not well thought out. But I believe in it very strongly. I believe that mental load is a real thing. I just believe that we are not helpless through it. That's what I believe. It's a real thing. We are not helpless. We are not stuck. But that's why it's important to know where your negative thoughts are coming from. Because a lot of times they're not really coming from you. They're not. They're coming from an experience that you had throughout your life, a childhood experience or influence and just daily influences that we have in our life in general. So explore that. It's worth it. Point number three that can make changing your eat, like building your positive mindset easier, getting you into this easier rhythm is to laugh at your own negativity. Again, I know it sounds really simple, but first of all, laughter is medicine. Laughter's medicine. It improves your health, it improves your brain function. I mean, it's amazing what laughter can do for you. And sometimes we go a whole day without laughing. We'll go a few days without laughing. And when, when we're missing out on the opportunity to just laugh at ourselves, laugh at our negativity, that go back to point one we know is not a fact. It's just like, oh my, I'm just gonna laugh at myself right now. Because it's so silly that I'm saying my husband's always late from work when there's just no way for him in this career to have a consistent time coming home. Or I'm pissed that my husband is gone tonight at work, but it's like he works graveyards. So when you're, when your mind is telling you, oh my God, this, this, this, like I'm. We'll get some more examples when we talk about the journaling. But my point is when you can learn to laugh at your own negativity, the negativity that says it's just way too hard to vacuum the house, and you're like, what the frick am I talking about? Like, this is an opportunity for me to just do something where it's a Humming noise of vacuuming the floor. And I enjoy that. And I just get to focus on this task. And I could put in a headphone and listen to something or give my kids a task or tell them to go play and they want nothing to do with me because I'm vacuuming. Like, this isn't a bad thing. And when we can just laugh at the thought that was telling us, this is awful. No, it's not. No, it's not. And we can just laugh that off. Changing your mindset gets so much easier because you're not attaching to everything that you think. You're not basing who you are to everything that you think and your self worth to every thought that comes through your mind when you're not doing that. Yeah, it's a lot easier to laugh at yourself and your own negativity that says, I can't do this. And it's just like, what the frick am I talking about? I have brought two boys into this life, birthed them, raised them. I'm pretty sure I can record a podcast. And it just gets funny at that point, right when you, when you feel like more empowered in yourself and you know your worth and who you are is not based on any negative thought you have and you can prove them wrong, you're going to feel a lot better than. So any negative thought that says, I mean anything about your abilities, pull on something that's amazing that you've done in your life and say, yeah, I'm pretty sure I can handle this. Of all the trauma that I've endured and all the difficult experiences I've been through and all the crappy ways I've been treated in my life, I'm pretty sure I can solve this argument with my husband. Thank you, negativity. But you're actually not helping. I'm gonna exit the conversation now. And you just, you seriously have that power. And laughing at your negativity is a great skill set to build. Takes time, takes practice, but it can actually be really fun. And then your negative thoughts become entertaining. It's just like, oh, wow, really? That's interesting. I don't believe that, but I mean, thanks for the humor of the day. You just laugh at it. So let's talk about the journaling exercise that I want you guys to dive into. I've got three points for you to hit on the three points that we've been talking about. So number one, remember, stop accepting your thoughts as facts. So your journaling exercise attached to that is you're going to go to Your journal. And you're just going to ask yourself, what thoughts am I attaching to that are not a fact? Really take some time to explore here. So it could be, my kids are annoying. My husband never helps. Those could be thoughts that you have that are literally causing feelings of annoyance and resentment, numbness, disconnection in your relationships. But they're not facts, they're not true. So really take time to explore that. What thoughts am I attaching to that are not a fact? List them out. Brain dump it. As many as you got. I don't care. They're not facts, so it doesn't matter anyway. Just write them down and then I want you to go through each one and ask yourself, how can I swap these thoughts to serve me? So it's not true about my kids. My kids are annoying. That's not true. But it's a thought that we have. So, okay, this is the thought. What can I swap it with that would be truer? My kids try so hard. My kids are authentic and genuine and are never afraid to be themselves. Wow. Imagine if we just had that thought every single time our mindset. God, my kids are so annoying. My kids are authentic and genuine and never afraid to be themselves. And I don't want that to change. Crazy how just changing that thought changes the entire way that you feel and the appreciation and acceptance that you have for your kids. Now let's talk about your husband. My husband never helps. Not a fact. Not a fact. Right. So what can we swap it with that would be truer than that first thought? My husband does the best he can. Okay? Everybody has room for improvement. Yes, but when we meet people right where they're at and we believe everyone's doing the best they can to their mental and physical capacity. Well, I'm pretty sure you and I both know that no one's going to try harder and do more when they feel like they've been disrespected, mistreated, disconnected. Like when they feel worthless, how much are they going to contribute? What do they really want to do to help? But when people feel appreciated and when people feel like they're in an environment that they can communicate in and thrive in and be helpful, then they want to be helpful. They want to show up that way because they have their own self belief. But when we've been tearing people down with, you never help, you never do. You're gonna do. You do this, you do this, you do this. It's just like we need a. We need a starting over point and our thoughts are that point, our thoughts are the opportunity to try again. Try again, try again, try again. I have to remind myself that every single day. Try again. Like, that's not the thought. That's not the way we're going. Try again. And it's okay. But my point is just explore the thoughts that you're attaching to that are not facts, but are creating, like, beliefs that are causing a lot of feelings that you don't want to have towards the people that you love. And your thoughts are super powerful in that. So that's your first journaling exercise number two. When we talk about, remember point two, that makes changing, like building out that positive mindset easier to know where it's coming from. That's where point number two was. The journaling exercise attached to that is self discovery. I wanted to dive through self discovery. Like, I was talking about when I was going through that point. It's just knowing, like, I don't even think this. So where's this thought coming from? Why. Why would I tell my help myself that motherhood is monotonous? Oh, my God. I saw this reel that was just saying how motherhood's monotonous and so mundane, so dull, and we do the same things over and over and over again. Which, I mean, I would say that's our own routine that we've created. It's our responsibility to change it if we don't like it. But motherhood itself is not monoton. Like, there's so much opportunity for things to be different every single day. Like, seriously, we have so much power, and it's not fair to you to limit your power. But just knowing, like, oh, my gosh, I felt influenced in this way because the mom's group that I went to or scrolling social media, I listened to a different podcast. I was listening to the news, and the news was saying how stressful it is for parents this time of year. And then I started thinking about my stress and thought, yeah, this is a really stressful time of year or my childhood experiences. It could be something super traumatic. It could be how your needs were never met as a child. Nobody ever paid attention to you or validated you or accepted you, approved of you, any of that. But also, maybe you were molested. Maybe you were always bullied for your weight and body image, and now you have a lot of negative thoughts around those things. Well, you're not thinking that because you're crazy. You're thinking that because you've been through severe trauma or shame and you've picked up other people's negativity in different situations. Like discover where it comes from so you can heal the relationship with yourself. And know, I'm not a bad person, I'm not a bad person, I've been through some really hard things and I'm doing the best I can to learn and navigate now. But I've never been a bad person ever. You've never been a bad person. Right. We're all doing the best we can to our mental and physical capacity. And sometimes that mental and physical capacity is different than other times and there's a lot of variables there. Right. But you are doing the best you can. So explore self discovery with question number two. Just thinking about, like how did the way you were treated as a child shape the way you predict the world and your life? Explore your experiences and just remember that experiences create predictions. So we have these experiences coming in and then our mind sends out predictions moving forward based on our experience, based on our experiences. So predictions that you're making are highly linked to your experiences. And the more you understand your experiences, experiences with more observation without judgment, you're not judging yourself anymore, you're just making observations. The more you do that, the better you're going to feel about yourself because it's like, oh my gosh, it's finally making sense. And when things make sense, it's a lot easier to feel like you are the empowered one, you're the confident one, you're the one in control. But lastly, let's talk about laughing at your own negativity. That was our third point. That helps you shift more into a positive mindset. And when it starts to get easier, when you can laugh at your own negativity. But laugh. Laughter is medicine. So what I want you to do in your journal for the journaling exercise number three, write out something funny that your kids do or one of the funny memories that you have with your spouse or a time that you made yourself laugh. Any type of experience like that, like write it out, things that you just find to be funny about yourself, about the people that you love that you might have negative thoughts about, about what's funny, like what can help you feel more light hearted in your approach to take ownership of your life. Because life is what we make it, guys, it really is. And our healing journeys and self discovery journeys don't have to be this like terrible thing that's all consuming and extremely exhausting and emotionally overwhelming. And like all these things, it doesn't have to be that way. It could be, oh my gosh, I'm so excited to learn More about me. Wow. It felt hard to go through that experience, but my goodness, it feels so good to understand that piece of me like you. You can make your healing journey, your self discovery journey, whatever you want it to be. I can't tell you how many times I've laughed at myself for the things that I've done because of thoughts that weren't even freaking true or the. I remember I started laughing at myself on a walk. I was pregnant with Liam, my first. So this would have been four years ago now I was pregnant with him and I was on a walk trying to do self discovery and freaking healing and figure myself out because it was a hard time for me. But anyway, I was on a walk and then I was listening to an audiobook by Brene Brown and I believe it was Rising Strong or the Power of Vulnerability. It was one of those, one of those two. And she said something in the book, I'm trying to remember. I'm pretty sure it was Rising Strong. Anyway, she said something in the book about. She shared a story about a woman that I just really resonated with, like her whole story that she was sharing. And there was a part in there where the woman was telling Brene Brown just in like a letter or something about her personal story. And this woman came to the realization that anger was her choice and she chose to respond with anger instead of curiosity and she was more taking on ownership and. And I can't remember what the exact story was at this point, but it was, it was so influential to me. And then I remember feeling so pissed at myself. At first I was so mad at myself. I was like, are you freaking kidding me? Is this a freaking joke? No one's ever told me before that holding on to my anger is a choice, that responding with anger is a choice, that I decide how freaking long I'm going to stay stuck here with this same nasty perspective in view of the world. No one ever told me it was a choice until I read, until I was listening to that book on my walk. So at first I was super pissed at myself. I was like, I can't freaking believe that I did that to myself. I can't believe that I have literally sabotaged myself, hurt myself, damaged myself because I don't know, ego. What the frick was this? Like I was pissed. And then I got maybe like, I don't know, 15ft. Like it wasn't very long that I stayed, that I felt like angry at myself because I mean, seriously, I'm mad at myself for being mad. Wow. Okay. But I remember I just started laughing. I just started laughing out loud. I was like, oh, my gosh, I'm responding with anger right now. I'm doing it right freaking now, like. And I just started laughing because it dawned on me, like, I can. I can move forward when I want to. I can change my perspective when I want to. I can have empathy for people when I want to. I can choose to respond with curiosity instead of anger whenever I want to. And I was like, huh? Who freaking knew? I was just, like, I felt so free. And I remember that just being one of the most, like, powerful experiences for me, like, finally feeling free and in control of myself, just making that connection of I choose. It's up to me if I'm going to show up with anger, if I'm going to show up with curiosity. It's up to me if I'm going to hold on to anger and resentment against people or view them with empathy and compassion. That's up to me. And there's just so much power there. And I used to have, like, more of a victim mentality where I don't have a choice. It's all on them. And they did this to me. And that's why I'm this way. And I don't control any of this. Like, that sucked. I did that for a solid 12 years, and it didn't get me very far. And that's funny to me now. It's just. It wasn't funny at the time. No, that felt really hard. But it's funny now because I see how hard I was trying in the wrong way. I was trying to control things outside of my control and just instead of just simply looking inward and if there's anything that I can do for you, within my coaching program, my podcast, Instagram, my email list, all these resources, if there's anything I can do for you, I just hope that it's helping you look inward, helping you see that you have way more choices than you give yourself credit for. And you're powerful beyond measure. And mindset's a choice. Circumstances can definitely be outside of your control. Yeah. And a lot of things happen to us that we never wanted to happen to us. But what we decide to think about those things is a choice, and it is in our control. And. And we see people, I mean, do it differently in a million different ways. Like, for every single person on this planet, they could be doing something different. That's how many options we have. It's insane. So, anyway, thoughts are powerful, friends. You determine your mindset and I hope that I get to be the coach that helps you through it. And I just wanted to remind you that on March 15th. Woo hoo. So excited. That's gonna be the new enrollment date for my spring session of coaching my group coaching program. Um, it's mind body alignment, 12 weeks with me. And you have video modules, PDF support material, a Facebook community to help guide you through everything and two live coaching sessions every single week with me that I stay on for as long as there's still questions. So one to two hours. And I'm, I'm really here to support you through it and make this a resource that's available to everybody through the payment plan. The one time payment you can really choose what works best for you. But that option is going to become available on March 1st 15th. There will be a 10 day period for you to enroll. So really just set a reminder in your phone for March 15th and I'll remind you on future episodes in my email list on Instagram, all the things. But I just wanted to let you know now because I know it's something that we need to prepare for, we need to really look forward to, we might need to save for. And I just feel that it's fair to give you that, that fair warning. Advanced warning. And in big news, this is, that's the last group coaching I'm going to be running for for 2022. So it's going to run April through June, the end of June, it's going to start on April 3rd, run through the end of June, 12 weeks. And that's the last one I'm going to do for 2022. And then my goal is to do three group coaching sessions in 2023. So we are really planning things out here. But yeah, I hope to see you in the community. Enrollments March 15. I'd love to see you there, please. You can email me info body by mommy.com if you have specific questions or just reach out to me on Instagram at T Tessaromero underscore. I'd love to chat with you there too. So anyway, friends, I hope you can feel my love coming through your headphones or the speaker of your car or the frick. You're listening. I love you tremendously and that's why I want this for you. Because I know that there's a ton of things outside of your control in your daily life, but mindset is not one of them. Love you bunches friends, I'll see you later. Thank you so much for being here for this week's episode if this episode serves you, please feel free to subscribe to the podcast, subscribe and and share it. I love spreading the message of positivity and healing and how they work together. My goal is to continue serving you and I can't wait to form more meaningful relationships together here on the podcast and elsewhere such as Instagram and my email list. We'll talk more soon.